Is it acceptable for a married man to call on a single woman after the pub shuts?

[harman]

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ah, now, be fair, Cliff - not MUCH bansheeing going on!

Oh I dunno, I read santa's "whinging paranoid freak" post and I stopped bothering after that.

Sure, some people have gone over the top with their mistrust, but most of us have tried reasonably pointing out that just because we have different views doesn't mean that we should be targets for ignorant, rude assumptions about our own marriages.

However this appears to have fallen on deaf ears and not only do you have very rude and sarcastic posts, but posters actually enjoying being rude and sarcastic! Mind you, some of the posters I would expect that from as that's all they seem to do, but others, I would have expected more intelligent posts, more reasoned debates.

Still, it is a full moon I suppose.

Well, I fully admit to being norty on this thread - and that I find the arguments against Harman's gentleman caller illogical and anachronistic in this day and age.

But I understand when people impose 'lower threshold' rules within their relationship for reasons of past upset still raw.

cliff
please be careful with those apostrophes or else I shall make assumptions about you

I think I have assumption.

Or is it consumption?

Oh assume away! After all, assumption is a Mumsnet disease!

Yes Blu, I suppose old pains still are raw. But when asked to comment on an individual scenario, you don't have to be wounded to remark on how you, personally, wouldn't have done what the OP did.

That isn't judging the OP, after all she felt uneasy enough to post this thread, but to say that in those particular circumstances we would not have acted the way she did.

Nothing to do with being prudes, or having trust issues or dependent relationships. Just having differing views.

I would have no probs with some other scenarios posted on here, such as going back to male friends etc etc. But as these were not good friends, I suppose that doesn't fulfil my criteria of people I would invite back to my house after pub closing time. Married or not.

Others have said the same. So why is this being dragged on and on like a lame horse to the glue factory?

I am just waiting to hear whether GraceCapello fingered the man's Yule Log and if her DH putting his key in the lock was a euphemism.

Cos I have my mind in the gutter, innit?

Definitely someone putting his key in the lock is a euphemism for putting his dick in the hole!

'Tis where I'm from anyway.

Oh and I forgot a smiley wave to chamomile!

she said he turned the key in the lock. That sounds athletic, if not a bit uncomfortable

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cq, that was a useful and insightful comma

oh, shit a brick, it was an apostrophe, not a comma.

I hereby surrender my Pedants' Corner memebership

lol

Unfortunately you cannot put apostrophes in your MN name. I wish you could as some of them just don't read right at all.

Anyhow, I corrected the teacher's spelling today! How do they get to teach when they can't spell? Tsk!

I would just like to say that I did not ask for Harman's posts to be deleted.

I'm surprised it got to a stage where someone's posts had to be deleted! Is it really worth all that aggro?

I'm betting Harman wishes she'd never even started the OP!

one of yours went as well rhubs!

No shit!

I have just been to the pub - and wait for it - gone back to a married man's house

Yeah, wait for it - he's your married man, right?

NO..........................

Your dad then?