Is it acceptable for a married man to call on a single woman after the pub shuts?

[harman]

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Most of us would wear a low cut top to lure a man back to our. Obviously Christmas decks are this years low cut top

Its gotta be a wind-up.

Married man goes back to single womans house with 2 other singletons to look at Xmas decorations.

On what planet does this happen ?

Fucking hell, do you all live in inbred backwaters where no one is allowed to speak to anyone else and single women have to go veiled?

Is it one of those mundane/moron things where you don't allow anyone into your house because everyone else is a potential rapist/husband stealer/mugger/member of Al Quaida?

There are dozens of benign interpretations of a group of adults wanting to continue a conversation over a coffee after the pub has shut. ONe, of course, is that the single bloke fancies one of the single women and his married mate is coming along to give him a bit of moral support.

As to the married man neglecting his 'family' no information has been given as to whether or not he has young children - not everyone is a parent, married or not. SO he might be in the pub most nights because his wife is out at her book group/bingo/evening classes/with her own mates most nights.
THose of you who thik you own your partners and that you can forbid them to speak to other people ought to bear in mind that a monogamously-inlined person won't cheat (though might dump an obssessive controling insecure whiner, of course) and a partner who is inclined to cheat will find a way of doing so no matter how much you snoop and threaten and plead, so why not get a little self-respect and stop thinking that a partner is property?

pmsl at xmas decorations

this is good.

men (married or other) do not go back to single women's houses late at night (whom are not established friends) to look at xmas decorations....

who the fuck is being naive here?

sticks, I'm not sure I get the Al-Qaieda analogy

sticksantaupyourchimney - It has emerged that he has grown up children and his wife is out. So I guess It probaly dosen't bother her at all, anyway.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie you're really showing your best side now

not

banana
this:
"I would be upset that DH would prefer to spend this time with other women and not come home and spend time with me. It is not a trust thing, but I would worry about our relationship"

were you being serious? you didn't mention spending time with family - you said "me"

I spend time with my dh and time without him. simple. he has heaps of female friends and finds most men (footy, beer etc) a bit dull

ok, so some women are happy for their dh to go to a single womans house after the pub shuts, who is not a close friend

on some ridiculous pretext of looking at xmas decs

but I know my dh would not do it

and if he did, I would suspect someone, either him/her/both wanted a shag

call me uptight/call me clingy/call me inbred

OK.

Harman is a LONG time poster

and I am applaudunbg sticksantaupyourchimney

DP goes out drinking with woman

I go out drinking with men

neither of us have cheated.

We are not all sex crazed nymphos who can't control ourselves around the opposite sex, just as most men are able to keep it in their pants.

Harman did nothing wrong.

chamomile, is this my best side < turns to left >

I always thought my right profile was best

Well I meant me and the family. That time of night the children would be in bed though.

I guess my Dh wants to spend time with us anyway.So it would be abnormal for him to do the pub thing.

cake, no-one is saying harman did anything wrong (have you read the whole thread?)

harman is not being slated here

well ok, the worst thing being said is she might be a bit naive

or might be a troll, yes I said that, sorry Harman

but she did ask the question in the 1st place, so there must have been an issue with it in her own mind in the first place

I would say that even if nobody was after a shag on that particular occasion, this is kind of how these situations tend to pan out over time, so I wouldn't be encouraging it tbh. But now he has seen your decs, so he got what he wanted presumably

Yesa, but it might just be true.

Why does everyone have to get suspicious?

lol @ where this thread is going.
If I was his wife, I would be pissed off, because I have trust issues. I think however that on another planet people do have trust in each other, thats why they get married? And they know that no matter WHAT they WOULD NOT be unfaithful.

I can assure you they really did come to ogle the decorations, which are indeed very nice by the way, and that there was NEVER any suggestion of ANYTHING at all.

It was a good laugh, and then they went.
Do you really not talk to people because they are married? God.

my dh drinks in the pub with other women

he buys women the odd drink

he has a dance with the odd female

go back for coffee ? er, no

mincepie I don't really like either side tbh

banana, the children are in bed at that time as you said. so it's about spending time with you. me and dh will be out 4 nights this week - me 2 on my own, one him on his own, and on friday we'll go out together. I won't be worrying that he's out shagging someone else when he's not with me.

The going back for coffee....Harman lives about ten steps away from the pub. There was no long drawn out getting there, does that make a difference?

Can I just say that the situation wasn't clear from the OP and when I posted earlier. I do think if all 4 people were having coffee and my husband was there I wouldn't have a problem with it, I trust him.