im pregnant by the man i love and cant possibly have it....go gently on me please

[Littleblue]

....i was told ovulation had stopped ,im nearly 40,ive already got 4 kids,and the youngest starts full time school next month,the eldest starts uni next year.I left a violent relationship last june,and ive finally got a new house and everyones settling down.My lover lives a long way away,with a big family of his own and we only see each other twice a month,hes a separated single parent too.

I love him to bits,im absolutely devastated,i so so cant have another child,my body/mind and finances are all buggered im in pieces..

I would if i were you,i didnt anticipate it either.

Thank you...I will.

Im bleeding again suddenly and sore,im worried whats going in,fingers crossed i dont have to go back in!! [shock}

Im cold and exhausted too

Can you ring someone and ask? It could be an infection or incomplete evacuation. You need to be seen I think

Im going to see how it goes.This just drags on and on Im going to obsessive about preventing it happening again.Il phone the ward in the morning,if i dont feel brighter,i feel ill

Hi Littleblue, sorry I have not been around much.

How are you feeling today? If you are still bleeding please go in. An incomplete evacuation can be nasty if it is left and the last thing you need now is to have the worry of infections etc making you feel worse on top of everything else you are probably feeling right now.

I hope you managed to enjoy some of chritmas with your dc and your mini christmas with dp.

NC x

Hi,its settled now,im ok..ive a sore throat so i think the other symptoms were a lurgy.Im really depressed atm tho,we miss each other dreadfully

Long distance is tough at the best of times, do you have any plans to get any time together? Will you be able to do holidays together and things?

I am glad you are physically feeling a bit better.

Hi LB...how are you? Hope you are feeling a little better.

Well I am no longer pregnant & all I feel is a huge sense of relief! I cried immediately after through relief.

I was 9 weeks, not as far as I had thought I was. Not that it made any difference!

I am cramping, which they said is normal. But it isn't too bad.

Thankfully everyone was very supportive & really nice. That did make it more bareable!

Im glad your doing ok..or were on the date you posted,hope thats still the case?Ive logged in today,as i thought it would be about the right time for your recovery period.
You know its the right decision,when you are so relieved its over.Im still bleeding a bit,i hadnt anticipated that,but its normal..

My bf came up last weekend for 2 nights,he was missing me so much he took the day off work for extra :-)..yes,we plan to holiday etc,but its all one day at a time atm,distance relationships are difficult! we cam alot at night,but need to cut back cos we stay up too late and are knackered.

Differentname...bighugs...its good to feel respected and supported by the nursing staff etc,it helps alot,best wishes to you sweetheart xx

Thank You, LB.

Yes, I am still OK. Can't believe how quickly the pregnancy symptoms abated. It is great not to feel that sickness, those headaches etc.

I am spotting now & cramping still [had coil fitted until we get something else sorted] so that is to be expected, so I am told.

I'm glad your bf came over & he got some extra time. I don't know how you did it, I couldn't have coped without dh, he has been wonderful, long distance must be so hard.

It is hard,its also hard for him,we love each other to bits,and he felt so helpless stuck at his while i grimly soldiered through it alone.But in my live in relationships,both of them,i felt more alone than i ever do with him.I shared my life for about 10 years with both of them (successively , not the same time haha)and was quickly bitterly lonely,thats not the same as being soulmates with someone you cant be with all the time

Oh,and im in for the coil shortly...