Another row only this time he's hit my face

[FrettingAgain]

I'm in pieces and a regular so please be gentle with me

We had a nasty row a few days ago, and he left he house and didn't come home until the early hours, leaving me in bits wondering where the hell he'd gone to. Didn't answer his mobile either.

Well it's all blown up again this morning, same row, except i've ended up having my face slapped. I don't know what the hell to do now, he's walked out again

Some proper time apart is what's needed now, two days obviously wasn't enough to make a jot of difference. I'm feeling really angry with him now because he is completely taking away my time to grieve with all this.
I haven't told my folks what's happened yet, my dad would lay him out

Fretting - I've been lurking on here and I'm so sorry that things have deteriorated further - if that were possible. You're right - you have enough to deal with with your grief, without all this. Don't know what else to say except...

Fretting, dont forget I am reasonably "local" and mobile too, you have my email.

I'm not sorry for the wording of my earlier post as I am concerned for your welfare and wanted to try and get through to you.

Keep posting.

FA when we refer to mental health here I think most of us think "emotional well being".
He needs professional to help him overcome his grief and the anger.
He must be told that he is freewheeling by testing your love. And he must be taught how to heal.

Now please think of yourself too. Shouldering responsibility for his emotional well being distracts you from your own and it might hit you back like a boomerang.
Please do seek help. Professional/church/family/friends/support groups....anything really just do not sit this out on your own now that he is taken care of.

VaginaShmergina, i know and thankyou.
I will get this sorted, because i cannot carry on like this, i know that. First port of call will be my GP again i think. In fact i'll walk down there and ask to see the nurse first, i know it's a short cut to getting in to see a dr and hopefully he can help find us some more appropriate help.

please tell them the seriousness of the situation, FA. Don't be fobbed off...

Have been following your thread FA and just wanted to wish you luck at the docs. Also get them to record your side injury where h kicked you.
So sorry you are having to go through all this on top of everything else. I really hope you can both get the help you need.
Have you contacted anyone about grief counselling for you? It might help to speak to a stranger and get it all out.
Very un-MN I know (((hugs))) to you

i am very sorry this is happening after what you have gone through.I hope you can both get the help that you need,and quickly.

Thankyou, i've seen the nurse and a GP, not mine but that doesn't matter. I'm not on my own right now so can't hang around but i'll be alright for now. Brother in law has sais he will try and get him to see our GP but he's in a state so chances are that won't happen right away. He admitted lastnight he needs helpso i'm hopeful we're on the right track.

i wish you luck and hope that eventually you can both be happy again.

Still thinking of you FA, hope you are ok and h is on the road to getting some help

Fretting I am away til Tuesday, I hope you are OK, have not seen you around anywhere, hope you are ok and just taking some time out. Take care of yourself. x

Hope you are ok, Fretting?
I am thinking of you

please let us know how you are... if you feel you can?

Just making sure I keep this on my list, hope you are ok FA.