How would you feel if your DP shared a hotel room (twin beds) with a female friend?

[ChiefFairyCakeMaker]

That's it really - DH and I disagree over this, maybe I'm overreacting but I just think it's inappropriate. I'd be interested to know what others think

Um, no. No fucking way. Am amazed that your DH thinks this is OK (I presume it is him who thinks it is OK? Thought so).

It really would depend on how well I knew the friend.

When on tour with his band dh used to share rooms with the flautist, it never bothered me in the slightest.

Why does/did he need to?

What would his reaction be if you were to share a hotel room with a male friend?

No wouldnt be happy at all

if it bothers you then he should respect that it does and be respectful to you.

who don't you trust out of the two?

I would feel uncomfortable and would think that for a few extra quid, a whole lot of hassle and bad feeling could be avoided. Hope he changes his mind. Good luck. Oh and if you aren't happy then surely he should care about that and rearrange things.

unless she was a lesbian but even then..

Depends who the friend was tbh. If it was a friend of ours then it'd be fine. If someone I knew little or nothing about then no I wouldn't be happy.

Not on in my opinion. I wouldn't share with a male friend so wouldn't expect my DH to share with a female friend.

Just a bit too odd i guess. I wouldn't necessarily think anything was going on but i know i'd like my privacy and would assume everyone else would too.

Well, I trust dh implicitly with his closest female friend, but i would think it odd. I don't think anything would happen, but they wouldn't consider it from a privacy point of view.

Nope, I wouldn't be happy.

Can't see where there'd ever be a need for that.

Bloody hell.

Ask him if he minds you sharing a room with the hunk of your choice.
He will, because he knows hunk will be secretly hoping the bedclothes 'fall' off you in the middle of the night leaving you in all your glory.
Meanwhile your dh is lying on his back, farting and snoring whilst female colleague looks at the little tent he has made with the sheets and forever more looks at you with pity.

I once went away with a group of freinds and was going to room share with a male gay friend. DH was not happy for me to do so - he didnt think anything was going to happen, just wasn't comfortable with it.
I respected his feelings and swapped. He should do the same

Rolf at fabio

no - not on.
nothing to do with whether you trust him or not. It is inappropriate and if you are not happy he shouldn't even consider it.

Thanks guys - Fabio

She's a fairly new friend of ours, well more his than mine as they do some work together.

I trust them both, I don't think anything would happen, I just feel really uncomfortable with it, and I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who feels this way.

Keep the opinions coming, I want to tot them up so I can say "well 8 out of 10 mumsnetters say they would prefer single rooms"

I would not allow it

Would depend on the friend. But in general I think it's inappropriate.

For the sake of a few quid? No. Not appropriate.

wouldn't put up with it. and actually if they work together its even weirder to share a room, i wouldn't want someone work-related seeing me snoring.

each time my husband did it it was the start of an affair.

if you are not happy he should respect your feelings.

even if he is trustworthy , she might not be.

I wouldn't mind in the slightest because I know and trust dh

even if the woman was stunningly attractive, half cut, half naked and up for it, dh would never notice and would talk incessantly about work until she fell asleep

he is fantastically naive at missing signals

No Way. It is completely unfair to expect you to feel comfortable with this. I don't know what else to say - if he can't see this he must hve the hide of a rhino

i would trust my dp. i do trust me dp.
i would be ok with it.