How would you feel if your DP shared a hotel room (twin beds) with a female friend?

[ChiefFairyCakeMaker]

That's it really - DH and I disagree over this, maybe I'm overreacting but I just think it's inappropriate. I'd be interested to know what others think

how much would they both save?

I would be extremely suspiscious at the mere suggestion from my dh that he was even fleetingly considering it

MadBad - good idea

Dropdeadfred - they'd save about £20 each

£20! For a chap who is (I surmise) in good financial health?

I'm now convinced that the answer - if you can sort out the practical, childcare side - is for you to invite yourself along for a nice relaxing break. Don't all couples need 'couple time'?

I'd start checking his mobile if I was you

Sorry, don't wish to be blunt but I think you trust may be misplaced

Have you told him that you think it's not appropriate..? what was his response?

This thread just HAS to be utter bollocks - but well done cakemaker for getting so many responses!!!

Why would he be telling you if he had an ulterior motive.

But in answer to your question - I would not be thrilled.

Why would he tell her? - 'double bluff'

HuwEdwards - I know it's unbelievable but I swear it's true

Now she's insulted because I've said I don't approve and have asked him to book seperate rooms, he's happy to do that to keep the peace with me.

For saving £20 - my good God, no!
Thing is, though - if there is anything suspicious going on between them, then surely the activities will still be going on even if they don't share a room?
God, I'm a cynical woman!

I think he is trying to make you feel bad...why did he tell her that it was you insisting they didn't share? why didn't he just say he'd had a change of heart thinking about how he likes his privacy in the mornings etc

if she's insulted tell her to lump it. to be honest. it's the least of your probs

Frankly, a double bluff seems unnecessarily complicated. Why bother?

I'm off to bed now [yawn] but thanks for all your advice, I'll check in in the morning. Nighty-night.

Not read thread, but I wouldn't be happy.

I am insanely jealous at all times though (unhealthily so)

who cares if she's insulted? how on Earth did she think that was going to be appropriate?

Insulted? Then she was up to no good- watch her! I do have some male friends I would share with totally platonically, but I'd far rather have a room of my own.

thing is at least he's asking you about it... having seperate rooms isn't going to STOP them shagging if they want to, is it now really

nevertherless, if you're not happy (and i would trust youir instincts) then he should respect that and not do so. there's no real need for it by the sound of it. And a new friend - no, I wouldn ' tbe happhy (mind yiou DH wiouldn't do tis in a millon years)

\tyoing is crap. have opins and needles, no idea why

A fairly new friend and more his friend than yours?

No way, no way at all.

Get him told now.

So if he wanted to shag her then what would the difference be if they stayed in one room or not?

No, not on, and sod trust not about trust about boundaries, sleep is quite intimate, we expose ourselves physically and emotionally when asleep, also friend or no friend, people talk and god knows lifes a pain in the arse as it is without folk adding their opinion, of course mn doesnt count!!