How would you feel if your DP shared a hotel room (twin beds) with a female friend?

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That's it really - DH and I disagree over this, maybe I'm overreacting but I just think it's inappropriate. I'd be interested to know what others think

Doesn't matter if she's a dog, no one looks at the mantlepiece when they're stoking the fire (as my nan used to say).

No way, I trust my dh but this would be inappropriate.

My dh has done this and I didn't bat an eyelid.

He's a nurse so hasn't got many male colleagues. Names were drawn out of a hat to go to a conference and he was one of them (and the only male). If he had insisted on his own room then somebody else would have had to pay double as well so it made sense for them to share.

I trusted him completely and still do

Thanks Cappucino and Dropdeadfred's DH's - I think she's very attractive and sexy (more attractive than me)

georgimama's nan

I've done this, my DH did not mind.

The other way around it would depend who it was. Actually, I would be happy for him to share a twin room with almost any woman I know.

"...very attractive and sexy..."?

Well he's gonna shag her then, isn't he?

blimey!

I've been to a fair amount of work dos in my time and I have never been asked to share a room with either a male or a female.

cheapskate bosses or will he have to pay for the room himself?

How can people say they trust their partner but don't trust another woman? Surely if they trust their partner then it doesn't matter what anyone else does?

BEAUTIFUL - yes it's like a works do.

unknownrebelbang - the friend thinks it's fine, as does her DH apparantly, which is why I was starting to think is it just me? but the wise women of Mumsnet have put me straight - I bow down to your greater wisdom

I'd be fine with it (& have been - dh escorted his ex-boss & good friend to the wedding of a mutual colleague last year - they shared a room).

Equally, I've shared rooms with male friends & dh has had no problem with it (recently, another wedding, 'no partners' invite, old Uni friend who was intending to drive back to his hotel & ended up being persuaded to get hammered - I happened to have a twin room to myself as female friend had been unable to make it at last minute...)

OTOH if I didn't know someone pretty well, I'd not want to share anyway. So I'm surprised your dh is willing to do so if she's a not particularly close workmate.

When I've stayed in a hotel room on a works do, I usually take a long bath, wander around in my towel for a bit, put on underwear, sit in underwear and do make up/dry hair. Put my clothes on just before going down for dinner.

And I sleep naked

I really can't imagine doing that in a shared room with a male colleague

I wouldn't be happy and wouldn't share with a male friend in the same way. Have only read first page so apologies if repeating others.

sounds well suspicious tbh and I'd suspect one of them of having 'plans'

that said, I can imagine being fine with dh doing this in certain situations and i've done similar in the past without it meaning a thing.

but circs sound dodgy

Exactly..what about morning shower...applying makeup whilst slurping coffee etc etc

I just cannot imagine any company that would expect this of two married people...?

No I would not be happy (at all).

I would not mind tbh. I quite honestly cannot imagine anything happening with dh and any of his/our female friends.

That said, I would be very unkeen on sharing a room with a colleague. That is more the inappropriate thing IMO.

No way.

DP says he'd be ok with me sharing a room with a male friend though not very convincingly!

Just to clear up - they are choosing to share a room, nobody's making them.

I would feel very very suspicious.

Um, why are they choosing to share a room? Is it a money saving thing? I honestly would not be happy with dh sharing a room with a female colleague - perhaps that is just me being insecure/not trusting etc, but I'd def be a little suspicious with the whole them suggesting it thing! I'd keep my beady on eye on them!

'Tis bizarre. If it were two friends of long standing I can understand why they might be willing or even keen to share a room, but colleagues? Really? Surely the boundaries are different.

I always thought the best bit about a work trip was uninterrupted peace and quiet in the hotel room in the evening and a bathroom all to myself where I wouldn't step on the squirty whale bath toy.

They're paying for the room, so they're saving themselves some money, although DH is not short of a few bob

How about getting a relative to babysit and inviting yourself along for the trip? Is it somewhere nice with good shopping/sightseeing potential?