How would you feel if your DP shared a hotel room (twin beds) with a female friend?

[ChiefFairyCakeMaker]

That's it really - DH and I disagree over this, maybe I'm overreacting but I just think it's inappropriate. I'd be interested to know what others think

Absolutely not on imo.

NO NO NO. I trust my DH too - but there is a limit.

good point cali! cant see the grouchy fucker accepting a shared room anyway, unless it was with me
still an all, im with cappy. it wouldnt trouble me for more than a moment. he has eyes only for me [smug]

No, no, no.

Why does he need to???? You can add me as another MNetter in the staunch NO category

is the OP ever going to give more details?

I have shared rooms with male friends - when I have been in relationships and they have been.

We chat into the night like you would with girlfriends.

I think seriously - Nothing to be scared of. If he has told you about it there is DEFINATELY nothing to worry about!!!!

Hi dropdeadfred - I gave more details earlier, you must have missed it, in answer to your question I said I trust them both, she's happily married and DH is well.. . married after this I just don't feel comfortable with it.

I wouldn't like it, even though I trust DH. I would feel kind of humiliated that he and she felt they could treat me like that, like it didn't matter that he had a wife, I suppose because sharing a room is what a husband and wife/boyfriend and girlfriend do. Maybe I'm neurotically jealous, but I didn't mind my DH going to a lapdancing club and having private dances, but this seems somehow more intimate, even if nothing sexual happpened. I don't know why.

It has nothing to do with trusting your partner and everything to do with respect and boundaries

IMO of course.

absolutely NO WAY

Sorry - I came back to the thread and missed your second post. You haven't really explained the need for it...

Is it the only room left within a 10 mile radius of a work do they must both attend?

The fact that half the thread think it is odd immediately exposes OP to potential for gossip and humiliation.

Nope.

I wouldn't mind.

No way Hose

If she was a friend of ours then I'd be fine with it. If she was a friend of his or a work collegue or anyone I didn't know, then no.

I would mind. It's nothing to do with trust - I trust DH and he doesn't bat an eyelid when I go out on the toot with my male buddies - it's about inappropriate intimacy. Room-sharing just isn't something you do with a colleague for the sake of saving a tiny sum on hotel bills.

I wouldnt allow it at all !! I think he's out of order for even entertaining the idea and she should have more respect for you, bet she wouldnt allow it if it was her hubby and you sharing a room !!!

Take it from me, they will have sex.
I know about these things, as I am a man, and we know how these things work.

ActingNormal - more intimate than private dances at a lap-dancing club!!! I'll quote you on that thank you

Pagwatch - wise words indeed, I may also quote you

(Can you lot come round my house and prompt me when I discuss this with DH?!)

Dropdeadfred - I don't really understand the need, partly to save money I think

I would find this inappropriate.

I know you and DH are in disagreement, what does the friend think?

Is it a work conference? ...? What's the occasion?

dh has just come home

his response is "No-one will say this, but she could be a dog"

my DH said I bet if she was ugly he wouldn't be so happy to share