How would you feel if your DP shared a hotel room (twin beds) with a female friend?

[ChiefFairyCakeMaker]

That's it really - DH and I disagree over this, maybe I'm overreacting but I just think it's inappropriate. I'd be interested to know what others think

No way is this acceptable, and I cannot believed that your dh and this woman think it should be!

Just checking in (afternoon tea break)...

coppertop - good point!

colacubes

wehaveallbeenthere #1 - you're right we should be sharing the room, we've never had a night away without the children in 7 years, as I said to DH us going would do our relationship no end of good, him going with her can only do our relationship harm.

wehaveallbeenthere #2 - shower scenario

and to those of you wanted more info about the situation or who said I seem very calm about this, I'm deliberatly not saying too much in case I'm identified by DH or the friend but your replies have cheered me up enormously.

Depends on who the 'friend' was and how well i knew her, i would generally trust dp with anything im 100% sure he would never cheat on me in anyway but i would ask why he had to share and why she couldn't just get her won room.

The fact that you're asking suggests that it's Not OK with you. For me, it would depend on who it was, how long he'd known her and the circumstances - why doesn't she have her own room?

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the OP has said it's not through necessity - they apparently BOTH wanted to share...?

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I think maybe is a little suspect but why would they say sharing a room, if guilty, you wouldnt mention it till afterwards in case dw kicked off and stopped you going!

Think the (so called)friend is a tryer! She thinks if she befriends the wife, and the wife falls for it, then she has better chance of coercing the husband! Classic trick, dh thinks its ok cause they are mates, wife thinks shes her friend and wam bam tryer becomes the tried!

Bet shes done this before, and anyhow what will work colleagues be thinking if these 2 share a room, its a stupid childish flirty situation that needs a grown up to step in and kick the other womans b hind back to where ever she came from.

CFCM, I hope you go and you and your DH have a marvelous time. You will have to post all the details (please) on how this plays out.
Here is a joke for all those ready to lynch your DH for double bluff penalty.
If you find it distasteful, my apologies.

A married man was spending time with a very sexy
(insert whatever fits here)> prostitute, slut, co-worker etc.
and he found that he had stayed too long to allow himself to clean up before going home to his ( very adoring, wonderful, doesn't deserve to wash the dirt from her wellies) wife.
The prostitute said (probably because she does this all the time and was probably waiting on another anyway) just walk in and tell your wife the truth, but first lets rub some chalk on your hands and have a swallow of beer! She then shoved him out the door.
The married man hurried home and being not as clever as he thought could only follow the instructions of the whore.
So in he marches...the wife wants to know where he was..and he tells her the truth.
The wife then examines his hands and smells his breath and knowing how dense men can be says in a loud voice..."You lier! You've been to the pub playing billairds!"

and they both lived happily ever after and the whore got some disease and died destitute. THE END

Absolutely not.

Really a no brainer. I trust my husband completely, but it is just inappropriate. We're grown ups now... slumber party days are over.

Does this sound harsh? Don't mean it to... just a gut reaction.

Has DH read this thread? Has he changed his tune?

I think it's a bit odd from a business POV that the situation has presented itself but it wouldn't bother me. I would expect my DP to trust me but would be understanding if he felt weird.

Therefore I think if it really bothers you, it should be respected and the arrangements altered. Depends if you want to do that.

I think the main reason it wouldn't bother me is because I trust DP and wouldn't want him to only not cheat because the opportunity was never there. I have good male friends who I have shared bed with that DP knows about and would be offended if I was not trusted but I guess it's diffiecult if she's not a really good mate to him.

They WANT to share? Ok that is weird.

from a company's point of view it's weird and I can't believe they allow it, as think of the sexual harassment type thing that could come out of this. It has potential to be very messy for all concerned.

bluesky..the OP says it's not a work thing as such it's a voluntary social thing...

No way... asking for trouble too much temptation etc... uncomfortable moments... bonding, closeness, bed and sleeping (even if apart) is a bonding ground.... no way, no way. Glimpses of her brushing her teeth in her knickers or whatever, get off.... wouldn't tolerate that in any way.

Why on earth would she want to share a room with him anyway? Even if they are friends, they work together.

When I am away from dh on business, I take advantage to shave my legs, bleach facial hair, pluck eyebrows, buff hard skin on feet, etc... All the stuff I do not always have time to do with a busy timetable and a 3 year old ds. And I would hate sharing a room, even with a female colleague, unless absolutely necessary.

I even avoid being sat next to colleagues on long-haul flights, let alone share a room...I do NOT want them to see me falling asleep, snorting, whatever... Too much intimate detail.

A drink in the bar, maybe, but small talk over cleaning our teeth...no way!

OP - please tell us the latest on what your dh is saying now. (Not sure which face to put in.)

He has booked seperate rooms with my blessing and said I can have a weekend away next time, now I just need to find a young man to accompany me - any suggestions?

Your DH, your business. I think I would check up on him "this time" though and take him up on the "next time" after this one is over.

Why can't you go away with him this time? Especially as he has his own room now!

Quite simply,I wouldn't happen because I wouldn't allow it.

If he kicked up a fuss and insisted I'd kick him in the bollocks just as he was about to leave, rendering him/them useless.

Lady now thats a good idea!

why can't you go this time though???