Dior & HW, I can't do next Monday (I am doing an assertiveness training course ) but Thursday would be good.
HW, best thing when H is in a mood -especially if alcohol induced - is ignore him! I'm using this tactic with DP and so far, it works like a dream. For instance, this Saturday he was really tired in the morning and looking forward to a lie-in. DD's radio was on in the next room and he found the vibration really irritating (I could barely hear it). So she turned it right down. I went downstairs and turned on the TV (quite low), but he could hear that too, and came downstairs looking like death warmed up and declared, 'OK, you have defeated me' - as if we were in a plot to destroy his sleep . I was all sweetness and light, did things with DD and left him to it and managed to keep it going into the evening, when he drank his usual but things were ok until DD came home after midnight, when he suddenly went off to bed without saying anything, leaving his DVD still playing and half a glass of wine undrunk, and when I went up to see whether he'd actually gone to bed, and said I just wanted to know as he'd left his film running, he said, 'Well, you know how to turn it off, don't you?'. I ignored prattish answer, went down and spent some quality time with DD (who'd just been proposed to by some ex-con on the Underground whom she'd never met before ). Yesterday morning DP got his lie-in, came down around mid-day and apologised for having been such a bear the day before. I know if I'd retaliated on Saturday, things would have escalated into one of his full-on depressions, but this way it dissipated after he'd had a good night's rest. I think, on some level, he appreciates this, as he's always particularly nice afterwards!