dh left me early this morning

[lou33]

that's it really

took his credit card, and went. Wouldn't tell me if he was coming back, refused to take his mobile, told me to tell the kids what i wanted.

lou I'm really sorry to hear this - I have just posted something about my dp wanting to leave and I can totally relate to how you are feeling. Why has he left?

lou are you ok?

OMG .. Lou .. are you OK? do you have people with you?

Oh Lou. So sorry to hear this. Do you have some support there ? Was this out of the blue ?

Lou I don't know what to say.

no! was this planned or expected? How are you feeling? Don't you have 4 kids? Talk to us more - are you ok? Don't know any of the background to this but could not leave this without adding a hug and some support

What?
But....
Oh Lou, this can't be right. Don't panic - what do you thnk is happening?

XXXXXXXXXXX
Blu

((((((((())))))))))

don't know what to say Lou, but sending lots of support.

Hope this will get sorted.

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}

Whaaaaat? Oh I'm so sorry Lou. Please tell us if there's anything we can do. You know we will.

Lou - has something triggered this. I agree with Lockets - men deal with grief and things completely differently to women - hope its sorted today for you. Have you tried him at work?

oh Lou I'm really sorry to hear this especially after talking with you on here last night

Lou, have you got someone with you? Do you need someone there?

Oh, lou. Do you think it is to do with thailand? (Sorry if I've got that completely wrong.) Are there friends he might have gone to stay with?

thanks. We had a row a couple of days ago (see my contribution to my husband is a t**t thread), which had been simmering, but imo not enough to end up like this. He went awol yesterday, but i thought he would do what he normally does when we argue, turn up in the early hours, sleep it off then we woudl talk and sort it out. This time he was adamant he wasnt staying, didn't want to know. He said it is obvious i dont love him and have wanted to leave him for a long time, he wasn't going to listen, he didn't care anymore, he wouldn't take his phone and he wouldnt tell me where he was going.

Yes i have 4 kids, and i don't drive. Noone really nearby to help out, apart from a single mum who has 3 kids and 3 jobs of her own to worry about. Spacedonkey is off to italy tomorrow.

School to walk is an hour round trip at least. Two hospital appointments for ds2 this week as well.

he works from home!

it isn't thailand, it may be a lot of other things but it isn't that.

so sorry lou.dont know what to say/do but {{{{hugs}}}}

and he took a duvet so i think he is planning on sleeping in the car. He never talks to nayone about his problems, apart from me so i would be very surprised if he went to see a friend. Plus his best mate is spacedonkey's boyfriend, so he wouldn't go there.

Sorry, have just read your stuff on the other thread. Xh used to do this as well. I don't really know what to suggest...

lou - did you manage to get the kids to school. Also have you tried ringing a few hotels. Even though you cant drive i also think you need to review your insurance situation and ask him to cover the car for any drivers and next time he leaves can he please walk as if your car is there then at least someone else can drive you and children to school/appts etc. am feeling very angry that he has left you high and dry

no i kept the kids off today. i didn't think they would be settled in school, maybe tomorrow.

the car thing is tricky, as we don't actually own it,it's my bil's, and dh is a driver on his insurance. We tax and mot it and take care of repairs etc, so there isn't really anything i can do about that. Am trying not to tell my family anything yet, about this

have no cash in the house either

lou - I'm the same, can't even talk to my mum on the phone as I know I'll break down.

Is there anyone you can talk to - apart from on here I mean! You need to get it all out and have a RL sounding board.
xx