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Original poster

dh left me early this morning

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lou33 · 31/01/2005 10:34

that's it really

took his credit card, and went. Wouldn't tell me if he was coming back, refused to take his mobile, told me to tell the kids what i wanted.

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batters · 31/01/2005 12:30

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galaxy · 31/01/2005 12:42

Lou I'm so shocked to see this thread was started by you and so sorry.

If I can be of any help, please let me know and I'll try and be there for you. I may be car less after the end of the week but can get you some shopping etc if you need me to this week.

Joolstoo · 31/01/2005 12:54

so sorry to hear this - hope your life turns around for the better very soon.

ediemay · 31/01/2005 12:56

dear lou, I don't know you but just wanted to add my support. I don't know where you live but if you are near London there is an agency called Universal Aunts in Chelsea who can help out with au pairs, mother's helps etc. on a short term/crisis basis. I used to work for them when I lived in London and they were very unflappable. I really hope you find out soon what is going on with him.

Yurtgirl · 31/01/2005 13:10

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Caligula · 31/01/2005 13:19

No advice to add Lou, just hope you're getting through it OK and that you get some of the practicalities sorted out.

Nightmare.

emmatmg · 31/01/2005 13:23

OMG......I really didn't expect to see your name here Lou.

I really hope things turn out OK. You've been through so much lately, I hope you have happy ending to this horrid time soon.

Thinking of you.

blueteddy · 31/01/2005 13:29

Poor you.
I am sure he will soon be back. Men are funny creatures!
Thinking of you.

Satine · 31/01/2005 13:29

I'm in W Sussex - is that near enough to be able to help?

chonky · 31/01/2005 13:35

Lou, I'm really sorry to hear your news - hope things get sorted out soon.

LIZS · 31/01/2005 13:37

[sad[ Lou

suzywong · 31/01/2005 13:39

Poor you, poor him, poor kids
Hope this gets sorted before you go xxxx

aloha · 31/01/2005 13:40

OMG....really shocked. Don't know what to say except I hope this is over really soon. Very angry he could do this to you, actually.

melsy · 31/01/2005 13:46

Lou Im glad someone is coming round to you.

I was also shocked to see this to be your thread. I hope you can get to a place of talking this through. Post traumatic stress does do very strange things to people. He will hopefully come round to what his done and realise how much a shock it will be to him to have done this.

xx

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lou33 · 31/01/2005 13:59

thank you all for your messages.

ks has arrived on her trusty steed, and has taken me into town, so i now have cash for emergencies. Have given her a cup of tea in return for my gratefulness.

Need to find a plumber now as my toliet is backing up. Dh used to fix it himself. Timing eh?

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marthamoo · 31/01/2005 14:00

lou What can I do? I don't have your home number but you have mine - ring me if you need to talk. I'm glad ks can be there for you, but I think you should tell your sister. You would help her if she was in this situation. Don't have any words for what I think of dh for doing this - not any that would help anyway Let me know if there is anything I can do. Huge, huge (((hugs)))

sansouci · 31/01/2005 14:01

So sorry to hear this, Lou! It sounds as though he left without thinking of the consequences and perhaps once he's calmed down, will come back so as not to leave you stranded, at the very least! I wish I could help you! I once walked out when I was v. angry with dh but came back once I had calmed down. For one thing, I couldn't bear to leave the children, although I was certainly furious with dh. From what I understand in the thread, your dh is under some kind of unbearable emotional pressure. If he doesn't turn up within a day or two, maybe you should tell your sister and worry about her not forgiving him later. You need physical, practical, hands-on help! Thank goodness for ks. Big hugs and sympathy from me. Wish I could do more.

marthamoo · 31/01/2005 14:03

Sorry, just read thread more carefully and see why you don't want to tell your sister - you are still looking after him, he should be looking after you.

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lou33 · 31/01/2005 14:03

i will tell her when i know what is happening myself. I just dont want to while i have so little info

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lou33 · 31/01/2005 14:03

i know i am moo

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marthamoo · 31/01/2005 14:05

Are the children at school? How are they getting home?

jampots · 31/01/2005 14:06

have you heard nothing from him yet?

how long do his jollys take him away for usually? or is it just a case of gets out for a few hours and comes back lashed?

Heathcliffscathy · 31/01/2005 14:13

i'm so sorry lou. and so gutted that sm is away too.

if there is anything i can do CAT me.

x

galaxy · 31/01/2005 14:15

Lou, do you need me to get you any shopping?

suedonim · 31/01/2005 14:18

I'm so shocked at this, Lou. I hope it can all get sorted out - I think your dh needs help. x x x

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