dh left me early this morning

[lou33]

that's it really

took his credit card, and went. Wouldn't tell me if he was coming back, refused to take his mobile, told me to tell the kids what i wanted.

it could well be blu, but he doesn't like talking, it's comparable to getting blood out of a stone. Certainly in the past he has made it clear i am not to mention any problems we have ahd to anyone else. I do of course, or else i would burst, but i have to make sure he doesn't know.

he dropped the wheelchair to me before he went sponge

ks thanks, could you call me? If you could get me to a cashpoint that would be a help.

I'm so sorry Lou. Where are you in the country? Are they any MNetters nearby? If I am, I'll come and help you hun.

Hope your DH grows up pronto (this is a very childish way to go on, IMO - sorry for being blunt). Hugs and more hugs xxxxxx

thanks sobernow. Not helped by the fact his mum, has breast cancer, and she or the rest of her family didnt tell him, and he found out over a year later through his father, who divorced her years and years ago. He emailed her trying to bury the hatchet and she hasnt replied, well she did once just giving the facts, but when he replied saying she was still his mum whatever hapeened , she blanked him. Again

he hasnt mentioned it at all but i bet it is an underlying factor as well.

ks isnt too far away from me

Oh KS I am so relieved you can be there - THANK YOU! All MN-ers have hearts in our mouths for Lou, I'm sure.

always good ks sorry i had to cancel coffee today

Oh Lou . Only just seen this thread, I never expected it to have been written by you . I'm so sorry this has happened and that it has left you with real practical issues to deal with alongside the emotional stuff.

TBH, I would expect him to come back and perform his duties where the kids are concerned, school runs etc, as he knows you can't realistically do them as a non-driver. The kids really don't deserve to get caught up in this, neither do you. This is the last thing you need in the light of recent events. I truly wish I had something practical to offer you, Lou. I'm so very sorry and hope with all my heart that you can sort it out in a way that suits everyone. You can always call, you have my number/email.

Enormous hugs xxx

at least it was original

ks is coming in about half an hour so i ahve to go and get ready, thanks for listening.

Glad someone is nearby and can help .

Lou Thanks heavens for ks (on all fronts but especially today )
MEN. Even when we love them they still manage to turn it into an offence at times. Thinking of you both and hoping he sees sense very shortly.

Lou, I can't think of anything helpful to say or do, but I'm so sorry that this has happened and I'll be thinking of you and hoping that everything gets sorted out soon.

so sorry sweetie. Really hope things get sorted real soon. So pleased KS is close enough to help you out for an hour or two. Stay calm and you know where we all are if you need us. Really feeling for you... xxx

Lou am so sorry to read this

Hope you are o.k and KS has wise words of advice or sympathy++++++++++++++

omg Lou this is all you need

Could you get an au pair who can drive to help you out until he comes to his senses? I don't think they are very expensive. If there is ANYTHING I can do please CAT me, I am not too far away, sadly I work full time but am around at weekends.

Hi lou, so sorry all this is happening to you. I agree with everything blu has said. Sounds like your dh is having some kind of breakdown - he obviously bottles things up and is finding that isn't working any more.

I reckon he will come back.

Lots of love xxx

sorry to hear thsi Lou, you name was the last i expected to see when i clicked on this.

Hope you manage to get something sorted