Mr College, with whom I have a coffee date on Tuesday, has just revealed the reddest of red flags. I asked him how long he had been single - and it turns out he isn't!
He is married. He claims to be "in an open relationship". What this actually looks like is, his poor wife is older than him and disabled, and they have adopted a child who struggles to sleep alone, so they basically never have sex and his wife doesn't really want to (don't blame her - he is a knob) and has apparently told him he is free to do what he likes but she doesn't want to hear about it.
I'd like to bet that, if this conversation happened at all, she just said it once when she was totally pissed off with him banging on about sex, and he has taken this as carte blanche to cheat and not tell her.
I asked him if he would be happy with her shagging other people, and he clearly just cannot imagine the situation of her wanting another man over him ever possibly occurring......
I am staggered how:
A) he thinks this is an OK way to treat the wife he is supposed to love.
B) what the fuck does he imagine would be in this for me?
He's not even that hot!!!!! But he could be hotter than the sun, and I wouldn't touch him with someone else's.....
Now, don't get me wrong, I understand that mismatching libidos can be really difficult, and I totally see why someone might not want to never have sex again, just because their partner doesn't want it.
But Jesus, this bullshit is not the answer!
I actually feel quite furious on her behalf. And on behalf of all women dealing with this degree of male entitlement.
ARGH!