The Dating Thread 63 Crisp air & Warm ♥️🧡💛

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

Hmmmm the Hot Physio has just messaged me….a week after I asked him for some clarity on the situation. Basically saying “I wasnt sure how to play it. What is it you want?”

Bit of a cop out asking me to go first!!!! But there’s a definite pull towards him. I’m going to sleep on it (and take advice here 🙏🏻) before replying.

I would reply im not sure either. What are your thoughts?

But I’m quite cagey. Fine line between keeping the open/ encouraging and concern about being hurt.

Could it be improved or is there ick?

Ahh that is a torment that you aren’t each others person.

The fact that there was kissing is a good sign perhaps? How much work does it need, on a scale of one to ten?

Though annoying in a sense, this is quite positive I think - kind of implies he will be up for anything you are? That's what it says to me, anyway........ 🤞🤞🤞

Thanks for the replies re Bumble, glad its not just me!

I waa talking to a guy for a couple of days on bumble and he disappeared for over 24 hours. He's just popped back up saying he is away with work at the other end of the country. His location is showing the town he lives in though... there's no way that can be wrong, is there? He's not using travel mode

I don’t think there’s any harm in just taking it at face value and telling him what you want. What’s the worst that could happen? What he wants shouldn’t change what you want. And if you’re not compatible then at least you’ll know and can move on quickly.

@empirebiscuits12 2 hours isn’t a dealbreaker. He said he’s in my city for work frequently (although just how frequently I’m not sure yet). I also like my own space anyway 😂

Awww cute! Sounds promising!

Sounds like the date overall went well though? Is there likely to be a Date 2?

Bleh, he is somewhere else local now

Its so stupid. He didn't owe me an explanation of where he was. So why lie?!

Morning all. You lot have been chatty overnight! Sorry I can't there who said what. Im always impressed by people who tag everyone and say something relevant to reach person. How do you keep track like that?!

Kissing sounds like things have moved forward, but disappointing if it wasn't good. Has it put you off or is the chemistry still there?

And who was it having the last fling with their FWB last night? @Ilovelurchers ? Was it fun?

Ad someone else said, i really miss sex and meaningful physical contact. I haven't been this long without it my whole adult life and it's making me quite sad.

I wouldn't necessarily trust a dating app giving you location info. If he volunteered where he was and had no reason to lie then could it perhaps be part of the glitching?

I started talking to someone. Physically quite my type, were bonding over DIY. Hes been fixing up a victorian house, talks about it a bit and has thus chosen his nn. Mr Victorian.

He seems amusing and no spelling or grammar errors, but if you'll excuse me a moment of snobbery, his job appears to be more blue collar and I am very much one for high intelligence men. I know those two things aren't mutually exclusive, but that's currently the thing I'm in two minds about.

Right. I have kittens using me as a trampoline/ race track. I'd better go dish up breakfast.

I thought that until he moved to another location nearby, 50 miles away. Not the other end of the country

Say "If only I knew a hot physio who wanted to take me somewhere nice for dinner to discuss that"

No ick.

It needs to move from 3 or 4 out of 10 to 5 or 6 at least 😁

I don't know as app geography is very variable. However my default is "lying bastard".

ETA some people lie like they're breathing. Bullet dodged.

It was great fun. I think so at the weekend though I did hear the words "arrange something nearer the time" which I never like to hear.

He did say he might try my (slightly more dangerous than tennis) hobby.

Ooooh I love that!!! Hahaha

@ThreeMogsAndCounting there is not really any chemistry. I'm thinking some might arrive!

On the snobbery...I would have felt like you but now I just heartily admire those with a work ethic and despise those without. It's not apparent from job role, though income can be a factor I realise.

It's a pride thing, right? You want someone who takes pride in themselves and their work and has some ambition.

I am just about to do my morning 20 minutes swiping so I'll let you know if he's stuck around overnight (the ghosting is unreal on these apps!)

It sounds like it went well and hopefully the chemistry will come if you see more of eachother

Fun Bobby date was good and all great, until we DTD. He didn’t finish, and then afterwards it was reaaaalllly awkward. He left in a hurry with a quick peck and a “see you soon” but then messaged when he got in saying he had a lovely evening and messaged something jokey this morning

not sure what to make of it 😕

Yes I definitely want all of those things (that are surprisingly rare in men on the dating apps).