Did the wife find out about your affair with a married man?

[GenEx]

It seems to be affair confessional central here tonight.

If you were an unmarried woman having an affair with a married man did he get away with it or did his wife find out?

I have no skin in the game - just nosiness about the hidden volume of secrets out there. And obviously anyone could write any old rubbish.

He does. He knows everything.

And what about "the man you are with"? Does he know?

I don’t know. There are 30 years between us and though I don’t want to acknowledge it, I suppose it has to be with his old age.

No.

Thanks for sharing. Noone is perfect in this life, and it sounds like this wont be forever - why not enjoy yourself xx

So you are currently having an affair (and have been for 11 years), and are with a different man who you would never cheat on? I think I’ve misunderstood something somewhere.

Never cheat on with anyone else, which is what I actually said.

When you said in the sack , my mind threw up an image of a man liiterally scrabbling around trying to get out of a sack. 😂That would be a fun affair.🤣

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Well i'll have you know thats how I judge all my future partners! 🤣

I know of a woman who found out about the OW. She found a pair of OW’s knickers in her husbands car 🤢

Can’t make sense of it!

Not me, but I recently found out a friend is the OW.

She is the LEAST likely person to be the OW you could possibly imagine. I absolutely would never have imagined she'd have an affair with a married man.

I assume the wife doesn't know, and judging by the husband's shtick, I assume he is sleeping with other people / anyone he can get. I feel sorry for the wife, not knowing her husband is off having (unprotected!) sex with his colleagues.

I feel sorry for my friend too, as she has caught feelings very badly.

Wait...you would never cheat on the man you are with apart from the one you're with that you don't love but you're still dating other men?

I am ‘dating’ one man other than the older married man I am having an affair with.

But there have been several other men over the past 11 years who I’ve also dated casually, before things became more committed with one.

Oh. OK.

It all makes sense now.

So you are cheating on the man you are with , with the old man?

Hasn’t it got old and boring now? I mean, he’s clearly never going to leave her and the excitement of the forbidden must have worn off a decade ago? (No judgement, just a can’t fathom why you’d bother?)

This just makes me sad for everyone involved.

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I seem to have quoted the wrong person 🤦🏻‍♀️

This is a very tangled web you have weaved.

So you're having an affair with someone 30 years older 🤢. Is this purely sex?
You don't love him but care for him.

Then you have someone else you are dating who you would not cheat on. But you do cheat on him with your old fella, but that doesn't seem to count or matter somehow. Or you don't see it as cheating, I'm not sure how you actually frame this in your own head.

I feel sorry for the man you are dating here, surely he should know you're putting it out to another man.

Do friends or family know about the old fella? Or is that a complete secret from everyone?

She would never cheat on him with anyone else.

Lucky him! Who says love is dead? 😕

Me neither 😂

Even sadder for his fucking wife

You what?!