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Husband blocked me after he dumped me. What to do from here

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Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 07:57

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. My husband left me out of the blue (we have 2 DD’s). He says he still loves me but he wants to forget me and move on. He has also said he wants to start dating but he doesn’t have anyone yet although he’s open to finding someone and remarrying and having more children. He then blocked me on WhatsApp so I can’t even call him about the children. I’m heartbroken I can’t stop crying. How can he say he loves me then block me and say he wants to move on. Surely if he loved me he wouldn’t be looking to be with anyone else? Also how can he block me when we have children. Please advise I’m on the verge of a nervous breakdown. How can he be so cruel. How do men do this I don’t understand how can he think he can just dump his family like we’re nothing and go start again. I’m a young mum by the way and I have no support at all 😭

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StandingDeskDisco · 27/08/2026 09:56

StandFirm · 27/08/2026 09:52

I disagree. OP will need her money and she should do what she can now to get it back. If it's unsuccessful, then yes, she'll have to move on and rebuild from zero - but she sure as hell shouldn't make it easy for him.

Not everyone can stomach a big legal battle with a psychopath.
OP might decide to use her energy in more productive ways.

BMW58 · 27/08/2026 09:58

Ask your wealthy Dad to take out a contract on the fucker.

TheIceBear · 27/08/2026 10:00

What a horrible nasty selfish piece of work . Agree get solicitor advice right now do not delay . You also need to spend some time with a friend or family member who can support you as well in real life

TheSquareMile · 27/08/2026 10:02

OP, having read through everything you have said, I would try Freemans as your first port of call.

The number is 020 7935 3522

Ring them today.

freemanssolicitors.net/for-you/family-children-and-divorce/divorce-separation-and-finances/

bettyrubble99 · 27/08/2026 10:02

Op, he is lying. He has someone else and has had them for a while. Dhe has probably gave him a ultimatum of her or you and he's picked her. What a bastard doing this to you & you DDs.

I would contact the relevant department for child support payments and then files for divorce yourself. Do not listen to any lies he spouts.

Letthesunshine1234 · 27/08/2026 10:02

Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 08:30

Thanks everyone. We’re currently renting and he has left me to pay the rent. We recently sold our house (it was a large amount) and I have now found out he has put the money from that in an account abroad. He had told me we would be repurchasing a house but that turned out to be a lie. I have a feeling he’s planning to move abroad and he has made it clear he won’t be helping at all financially. I do work and I have some savings and as he rudely said I’ll be fine because I can always go to my father if I need help according to him 🤦🏼‍♀️ I have only spoken to my mother about this at the moment as my father lives abroad and she is as shocked as I am. He’s 5 years older than I am but mature enough to know better

Is he a British national? I am asking as wondering how he deposited money in a foreign bank? Also are you legally married? These are important practical questions. I know you are feeling dreadful right now, however someone that is genuinely depressed would not be planning on moving large sums of money abroad. You will get through this and you will be happy again but you can’t skip to the end. Talk to your father immediately and ask for practical support with the financial situation and be kind to yourself and allow time to heal emotionally. You have two amazing beautiful children- look at there little faces and focus on the joy it brings - it can get you through some dark times 💐 you have this!

Mischance · 27/08/2026 10:04

See a solicitor. He cannot just opt to not support his children financially.

SassyLemonFish · 27/08/2026 10:05

OP, I am really sorry this has happened to you. Unlike other posters, I don’t think he’s got another woman. I actually think he’s on the run from either HMRC, investors, creditors or somesuch. It could be he’s escaping because all his businesses are about to implode. The timing suggests this ‘sudden’ split is pre-planned. Do not, as many other posters have suggested, ‘cut your losses’ and ‘move on with your life.’ It could be that there is fraudulent borrowing in your name. You need to do credit checks on yourself by obtaining statutory credit reports from the 3 main uk credit agencies. Search companies house to see if you are recorded on any of his businesses. You also should call the national domestic abuse hotline because I think you might be a victim of economic/financial abuse: 0808 2000 247. they can give advice, including whether you could/should report to the police online or through the 101 number.

don't take his claim that you're going to get nothing at face value. You need a specialist family solicitor urgently, ideally someone experienced in high-value financial remedy cases involving businesses and offshore assets.

If he had already decided to leave the marriage before the house was sold and the money moved abroad, your solicitor will want to know that. Moving an easily identifiable matrimonial asset offshore shortly before announcing a separation could be extremely significant.

The fact that properties, money and businesses are held through companies does not put them beyond the reach of divorce court. The court looks at everything. There is a formal financial disclosure process. A good solicitor can advise about obtaining company accounts, valuations and further disclosure where necessary. English family courts have powers to preserve assets, including freezing orders.

Don’y wait several weeks to see what he does. If he really is intending to leave the UK very shortly, the international element potentially makes everything more complicated. The solicitor needs to know about all this.

Make sure you have copies of the paperwork relating to the sale of the family home, the completion statement, mortgage redemption information, bank statements available, company information and any messages or emails concerning the house sale or his plans to leave. The chronology could be very important, particularly anything showing when he first decided that the marriage was over compared with when the house was put up for sale and when the proceeds were transferred.

bettyrubble99 · 27/08/2026 10:05

Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 08:30

Thanks everyone. We’re currently renting and he has left me to pay the rent. We recently sold our house (it was a large amount) and I have now found out he has put the money from that in an account abroad. He had told me we would be repurchasing a house but that turned out to be a lie. I have a feeling he’s planning to move abroad and he has made it clear he won’t be helping at all financially. I do work and I have some savings and as he rudely said I’ll be fine because I can always go to my father if I need help according to him 🤦🏼‍♀️ I have only spoken to my mother about this at the moment as my father lives abroad and she is as shocked as I am. He’s 5 years older than I am but mature enough to know better

Moving abroad won't relinquish the fact he needs ti support his children. You can go to court for what they call a REMO. It is is an international legal process used to recover child / spousal maintenance when one parent lives abroad and the other lives in the UK. X

Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 10:05

YourWildAmberSloth · 27/08/2026 09:53

Why on earth were you on the phone with him all night? He's treating you and your children like crap, you really shouldn't be giving him access to you in that way. Discuss kids and finance, but that should be it. He is still using and manipulating you. You stay talking to him, shows he can still get to you or that he has you exactly where he wants you, then blocks you when he's satisfied that he's done enough. I get that you still love him but he doesn't even like you - you need to wake up. Tell everyone what has happened - including his parents, honestly his mum will live. You have to stop protecting him.

Edited

It wasn’t a romantic conversation. I was telling him he has no way back I’ll never forgive him & I’m filing divorce. He was saying that he wants to be free to move on and start a new life. It was basically a final argument/ phone call and then he blocked me. I hadn’t blocked him because I thought he would want to contact the kids but there’s no need for that now.

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Whyherewego · 27/08/2026 10:07

Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 09:26

I spoke to his sister yesterday and asked her to talk to his parents. She was very sorry and both her and her parents want him to stay with me and are shocked at his behavior but I don’t think he plans on listening to anyone. She had said she’s reluctant to tell his parents straight away as he mother had heart surgery a few months ago and his father has high blood pressure and she’s worried they won’t take the news well. She had promised to talk to him in person yesterday herself & call me back but she hasn’t yet. I do know that she didn’t visit him yesterday though as he was on the phone with me all night until he blocked me before going to sleep

Tell his parents. Everything including tur money side.
They may be able to force him to be more reasonable and take care of their grandchildren. Because at this point the gloves need to be off

FaceIt · 27/08/2026 10:08

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. It is truly staggering that someone can do that to their own DCs let alone you.

I’m sorry to say that if he’s in Dubai or anywhere else outside the UK he will be under a different legal jurisdiction and it will be extremely costly and not guaranteed that you could even get a settlement.

I’m not a lawyer or a forensic accountant but I do have some limited experience of this. So be careful and make sure you understand the implications first.

Nosdacariad · 27/08/2026 10:08

Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 08:09

Thank you 🙏🏻 They’re 6 and 8. I called his sister yesterday and explained. She had promised to speak to him and get back to me but she didn’t. He has said he won’t be supporting the kids financially as he has to deal with himself and get a new place for himself. He has told me to ask my father for help if I need it as I’m an only child and my father is wealthy. Yesterday morning he sent me a text saying he loves me and wants to work it out and by afternoon this is what he does.

Please claim for child maintenance today if not already done.

Your father's income is irrelevant.

Your children are entitled to financial support from both parents, this is for THEM 🧡💐

Eta sorry if he is HNW then I get child support is more complex x

MissMoneyFairy · 27/08/2026 10:09

It takes planning to move to Dubai and it's hardly the safest region to live at the moment, seems a strange decision so it might all just be bollocks. Make sure you have the kids passports, birth cert, your marriage certificate, copies of his finances and his ni number. Engage a solicitor, inform your own bank and child support, do not engage with him any further but keep and screenshot any messages he may send.

Dorothyperky · 27/08/2026 10:09

OP you've had some excellent advice on here but you are married to a HNW individual and they don't like sharing.
Company ownership of houses is tricky however as pp have said did you contribute to the deposit?
You have the means to get the bastard so do it!

Now to housing can you afford the rent?
Is the agreement in joint names?
You say your stbexh is a psychopath, is he violent? If so change the locks.

Sociopaths are different they are usually fraudsters.
My bff was married to one years ago, property development, multi milanaire.
If he's ever been violent to you report that now so you can change the locks.

Perhaps he thought pretty girl, moneied family, I'll see what I can get out of her? Who knows.
Perhaps your parents are too young to give him a windfall!

Solicitor today my love or you could lose out.

There's lots of clever women on Mumsnet and they will help you. You've been targeted i think and you need the infamous big girl pants. He's a shit and you fell for it.
Get on that phone!

Ophy83 · 27/08/2026 10:11

You need lawyers to act fast - getting freezing injunction on any accounts he has here etc.

MissMoneyFairy · 27/08/2026 10:11

As you're renting you also need to tell your landlord, get the rent,in your name and ask to,change the locks

ThisWiseRobin · 27/08/2026 10:13

Beachbeach · 27/08/2026 07:59

oh Op I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It sounds incredibly tough.

you will get through this. Focus on eating well and drinking some water. Try to get some sleep and speak to family and friends to cheer you up and lean on.

How old are your kids?

Because eating vegetables and drinking water always solves marital problems.

Rather than this drivel, tell her to get mad, get even, he doesn't love her...you don't do this to someone you love. He's just trying to make it easier to slither away like the snake he is.
But he can't hide. They are married and there are laws.

SassyLemonFish · 27/08/2026 10:16

Dorothyperky · 27/08/2026 10:09

OP you've had some excellent advice on here but you are married to a HNW individual and they don't like sharing.
Company ownership of houses is tricky however as pp have said did you contribute to the deposit?
You have the means to get the bastard so do it!

Now to housing can you afford the rent?
Is the agreement in joint names?
You say your stbexh is a psychopath, is he violent? If so change the locks.

Sociopaths are different they are usually fraudsters.
My bff was married to one years ago, property development, multi milanaire.
If he's ever been violent to you report that now so you can change the locks.

Perhaps he thought pretty girl, moneied family, I'll see what I can get out of her? Who knows.
Perhaps your parents are too young to give him a windfall!

Solicitor today my love or you could lose out.

There's lots of clever women on Mumsnet and they will help you. You've been targeted i think and you need the infamous big girl pants. He's a shit and you fell for it.
Get on that phone!

Re the monied family thing. I thought this too. I’m wondering whether he has extracted ‘investments’ from OP or her family.

MissMoneyFairy · 27/08/2026 10:17

ThisWiseRobin · 27/08/2026 10:13

Because eating vegetables and drinking water always solves marital problems.

Rather than this drivel, tell her to get mad, get even, he doesn't love her...you don't do this to someone you love. He's just trying to make it easier to slither away like the snake he is.
But he can't hide. They are married and there are laws.

Bit rude, you do need to focus on your own health where you can when you're going through a crisis and getting angry and mad can affect your mental health.

wizzywig · 27/08/2026 10:22

Never have i been rooting for someone as much as I am for you op!

LillyPeaceFlowerSun · 27/08/2026 10:29

Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 09:14

Thank you yes I will start divorce proceedings today hopefully. It’s an incredibly complicated situation unfortunately I’m dealing with a smart psychopath

Yes. I believe he may well fit that bill. I’m so sorry.

Annabel20 · 27/08/2026 10:29

wizzywig · 27/08/2026 10:22

Never have i been rooting for someone as much as I am for you op!

So kind thank you 🙏🏻

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OneDogTwoCatsHalfaDH · 27/08/2026 10:30

wizzywig · 27/08/2026 10:22

Never have i been rooting for someone as much as I am for you op!

Another feeling the same. I started off thinking this sounds like a mental health issue, thinking possible suicidal ideas... but wtf.

Good for you getting your anger foremost OP, do whatever you can to take a shot across his bows. This is the nastiest, most preplanned shrugging off of a family I've ever read! Lean on your family and friends, and remember there's a lot of experience and advice here too.

SewYellowLikeButter · 27/08/2026 10:31

Start a CMS claim against him. He doesn’t get to ditch his responsibilities to his children

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