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messyhairdontcare25 · 2026-07-22T21:03:28+00:00

Hi everyone i just wanted to share a disturbing text I’ve received from a guy. The date was planned for this Friday and I received the below by text out of nowhere…no previous sexual talk, just planning the date. Totally icked out and disturbed. Urgh! *Quick checkin: Are you behaving yourself or do I need to intervene?*

Mls1984btc · Yesterday 23:41

'Huh?" is honestly the first thought that pops into my head, followed by this text wasnt meant for me.

Ignorance might be a bliss sometimes. I hate viewing every correspondence with ulterior motives lurking underneath. How exhausting!

Twatterati · Yesterday 23:42

TooHotToBoogie · Yesterday 22:58

@messyhairdontcare25 @all
He was implying that you were at home mastubating, and did you want him to 'intervene'
That's how I see it

Same. I’m genuinely surprised that some people can see nothing odd about the comment, and nothing sexual.

DressOrSkirt · Yesterday 23:43

Elmer83 · Yesterday 23:34

But it does. He’s being sexual and wants her to say she’s been naughty! What rock are you all living under?

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It really doesn't. What's he going to intervene in? Surely there's a text before this?

BibbityBobbity2 · Yesterday 23:44

He would see this as being sexually playful. It doesn’t necessarily reflect anything about him outside of the bedroom. It’s stupid to presume every woman is going to be into this, that’s his mistake. If you’re not, you’re likely sexually incompatible and it’s probably not worth perusing.

Wetcoatsandmudagain · Yesterday 23:44

LunaShip · Yesterday 23:23

Wow, you have a very vivid imagination! :O Or a dirty mind that reads sex into everything. No, it does not mean anything at all of the sort.

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yes sorry to say that’s exactly what it means 🤢

valentinka31 · Yesterday 23:48

Nopersbro · Yesterday 22:18

I wouldn't have read it as sexual and would have assumed it was meant for his child. Since he has confirmed it was for you, I can't think of a context in which it makes any any sense and would have to ask for an explanation ... unless maybe you've had previous conversations about something like wanting to cheat on your diet or feeling guilty about slacking off when you work from home or something like that? It's still inappropriate, but maybe not his intentionally being an arse.

You honestly wouldn’t have picked up that’s sexual? 🙈

valentinka31 · Yesterday 23:54

Wetcoatsandmudagain · Yesterday 23:44

yes sorry to say that’s exactly what it means 🤢

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I think it means are you being a ‘good girl’ and not being ‘naughty’ so basically not masturbating etc, and if you aren’t - so if you are masturbating - then does he need to reprimand you/punish you etc.

It’s 1 billion % explicit and if it’s out of the blue then yes he’s checking you know he’s after sex from you on the date. He wants to know this is sexual. Otherwise dinner will be a waste of money.

valentinka31 · Yesterday 23:55

DressOrSkirt · Yesterday 23:43

It really doesn't. What's he going to intervene in? Surely there's a text before this?

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He’s going to intervene in her pleasuring herself because she’s aroused by their prelude to sex, and he will do that possibly by having penetrative inter course with her. That’s what he’s saying. I’m not sure why that’s not obvious to everyone.

DressOrSkirt · Today 00:00

valentinka31 · Yesterday 23:55

He’s going to intervene in her pleasuring herself because she’s aroused by their prelude to sex, and he will do that possibly by having penetrative inter course with her. That’s what he’s saying. I’m not sure why that’s not obvious to everyone.

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Because he hasn't said that so why would it be obvious?
I wouldn't consider pleasuring myself as misbehaving (or as any of his business).

StressedLP1 · Today 00:00

ShieldMaiden8 · Yesterday 22:46

I think he was sending it to another woman, sent it to you by mistake, didn’t want you to know he was chatting to someone else so said yes.

Yep, agreed. Glad you are throwing this one back OP.

Daleksatemyshed · Today 00:03

Romance really is a thing of the past. Stay at home Op, I'm sure there must be something on Netflix you'd enjoy, maybe some cake, glass of wine, anything rather than him 😁

JazzyJelly · Today 00:04

Send him the link to this thread then block his creepy arse.

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messyhairdontcare25 · Today 00:05

DressOrSkirt · Yesterday 23:43

It really doesn't. What's he going to intervene in? Surely there's a text before this?

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That’s the thing…there was no text before this. The last thing I said was that’s great - looking forward to Friday. He didn’t know if I was at home or out 😂

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MmeDubois7 · Today 00:05

A bit weird. I know it's a first date but I guess it would depend on how well you've known him.

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messyhairdontcare25 · Today 00:08

MmeDubois7 · Today 00:05

A bit weird. I know it's a first date but I guess it would depend on how well you've known him.

Exchanged just a days worth of texts then arranged a date

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messyhairdontcare25 · Today 00:10

valentinka31 · Yesterday 23:55

He’s going to intervene in her pleasuring herself because she’s aroused by their prelude to sex, and he will do that possibly by having penetrative inter course with her. That’s what he’s saying. I’m not sure why that’s not obvious to everyone.

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It’s the check-in thing that’s weird too - yuck What happened to how are you today check ins? 😂

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Motuihe · Today 00:10

WHere did you meet him?

Motuihe · Today 00:11

Tell him you have been very naughty....and posted about his text to MN!! lol

DressOrSkirt · Today 00:12

messyhairdontcare25 · Today 00:05

That’s the thing…there was no text before this. The last thing I said was that’s great - looking forward to Friday. He didn’t know if I was at home or out 😂

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I think another PP is right that he meant to send it to another woman and doesn't want you to know that.

I don't understand all those saying he's obviously alluding to you masterbating when he had no idea where you were or what you were doing. That assumption would make sense if you'd said just off to bed or something, but out of nowhere it doesn't.

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messyhairdontcare25 · Today 00:14

Daleksatemyshed · Today 00:03

Romance really is a thing of the past. Stay at home Op, I'm sure there must be something on Netflix you'd enjoy, maybe some cake, glass of wine, anything rather than him 😁

I think I will stay single 😂

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messyhairdontcare25 · Today 00:15

Motuihe · Today 00:10

WHere did you meet him?

Park Run 😂 He wasn’t running - just walking the dog and we chatted for a while and we exchanged numbers. I just don’t get why men would think women would be ok with this talk?? Especially before a date! What happened to romance? Anyway, I like wearing the trousers. No way would I be submissive in a relationship 😂

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Motuihe · Today 00:16

messyhairdontcare25 · Today 00:15

Park Run 😂 He wasn’t running - just walking the dog and we chatted for a while and we exchanged numbers. I just don’t get why men would think women would be ok with this talk?? Especially before a date! What happened to romance? Anyway, I like wearing the trousers. No way would I be submissive in a relationship 😂

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Run for da hills.

Motuihe · Today 00:16

Or just LTB lol

DRose3 · Today 00:17

It’s the Wild Wild West out there now it seems! Haha, to think this is the best he can come up with.

As if that’s all he thinks he needs to do?! I would definitely respond with something witty/sarcastic:

If that line is the VERY BEST that you can do then I’m afraid you don’t meet the bar nor my expectations. Please lose my number.

MarshmallowsOnToast · Today 00:19

MaIeficent · Yesterday 23:21

Clearly this. How are people not getting it? He's saying "I hope you're not being a naughty girl because daddy would have to intervene".

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It’s exactly this.. trust me!

whether he mixed up his conversations & it was meant for someone else is another question.

But this was his angle whoever the intended recipient was!

He’s either into/experienced in BDSM sub/dom dynamics or just a cringey cheeseball dweeb who has been spending too long watching such things online.

either way im guessing neither is your vibe OP..
NEXT!