Disturbing inappropriate text before first date…

[messyhairdontcare25]

Hi everyone

i just wanted to share a disturbing text I’ve received from a guy.

The date was planned for this Friday and I received the below by text out of nowhere…no previous sexual talk, just planning the date. Totally icked out and disturbed. Urgh!

Quick checkin: Are you behaving yourself or do I need to intervene?

Please don’t do that. OP has already ran for the hills and she doesn’t want to bump into him there.

My goodness what a load of prudes saying you don’t understand what this means. He’s sexting you. Well he wasn’t the response to lead to sexting, or getting the barriers down before your date. Just tell him you won’t be engaging in this you want to get to know him first. This is due to online data it’s very easy to go down that route.

Why? What trouble do you think he might be in?

I didn't realise there were so many pages and that you'd answered the question I'd asked already.

Hope you get some nice cake.

He was basically saying this:

Back of the net!

OP, if he turns up to the date wearing a shower curtain and electrical wire, plus pieces of digestive biscuits taped all over his face, all is forgiven. That, or his fetish is even worse than we fear...

The irony being, had he sent this exact image, the reaction would be have different.

Laugh a woman into bed and all that

Send this

Yes, because then he would have been making a joke, not being creepy. It's not rocket science. Or irony.

I know! Honestly some of these replies are literally insane!

I think some people watch too much TV/spend too much time on the internet.

But then he'd have said that when OP asked if the message was meant for her "oops sorry that was for my mate that's on a night out."

It could be innocent purely on its own but with the rest of the context and his reply to OP I'm positive it's a flirty message to another woman.

You got deleted earlier for telling women they're insane and must be damaged by trauma for clocking an unwanted sexual text.

(A shame, actually. I don't think your posts should have been deleted. They were a very good example of how people pretend to be oh so kind and concerned while they tell women they're insane, and how quickly they turn to rage when people see through it.)

Oh, for the love....what in that stupid text made you come to that conclusion?

signed, Clueless Old Lady

I explained it on page 1.

It seems a lot of people agree.

If you haven't got experience of this, take it from people who have.

I think he probably sent the message to you in error, and could not admit that as it was supposed to be for another love interest. Not that deep really.

Some women can be extremely bitchy on here - just be kind, yeah? Feels more like you have to defend yourself on here more than get advice sometimes! This is directed at just the few that have been - just disappointing that women do this to each other.

What does it even mean, with no context I don't get it. Is he dating several people perhaps?

I don't think all of them are women. A lot are, though.

I don't blame anyone for not seeing it. Some people are sheltered or innocent or naive and he probably is hoping for plausible deniability. But I don't like women being told they're insane and ridiculous and at fault for clocking it. It's gaslighty.

Exactly, I get some people are unaware of this kind of behaviour but telling me I’m
overreacting definitely feels like gaslighting - spot on! Just be kind whatever your opinion is…

At worst he's a pervert at best he's very awkward and inconsiderate, I mean there are other fish in the sea OP 🎣

This is actually a very astute and quite possibly true take, it would explain how the test appeared from nowhere

Yuuuck

Hope you don't see him at parkrun again.

im with you
wouldn’t bother me in the slightest

Agreed 😂

Agreed.. I can’t see why that text makes him a pervert