Husband still in bed at 12.40 on first day of our family holiday.

[Rubyreindeer]

Am I being unreasonable. My husband and I, with our four year old are on holiday. Arrived late last night. My husband watched the England match which was midnight our time and finished at 3.30am. No problem with that at all. However, he then stayed up to watch the later match, came to bed at 6.45am and is still in bed at 12.40pm! I’m so cross. This is meant to be our family holiday. We are coming back from a week where he left, and are both meant to be making an effort, and he does this on our first day.

Am I being unreasonable and should expect him to make an effort to be up and with me and our son on the first day of our holiday.

Another doormat with low standards.

Sounds like he's on child duty tomorrow. It sucks he didn't think about the consequences of staying up for the later match, indicates he's pretty selfish. Have a chat with him about what he's planning for the next England game. You've got different expectations and priorities for this holiday.

They are both football fans. One of them has a child. No actually they both have a child! but one of them gets to not worry about that while the other doesn’t get to stay up and watch the second match , even though they love football and are on holiday because they know they are the only parent who cares and will have to be up and active an hour after it ends? How is that fair or reasonable? How is that the behaviour of a man trying to save his marriage? Hopefully the op has realised this and called it a day.

Why would she always be getting up? She’s not the nanny. It’s her holiday too. It’s mummy martyr central here today! Plus why would her husband be babysitting, it’s his child?!

What standards?! There don’t appear to be any

*men

You are missing the entire point.
Of course, she shouldn't be getting up but judging by her husband's behaviour so far, I bet she will.

It's not martyrdom, which is a really irritating and patronising thing to say, it's women doing stuff because their selfish partners don't.
And with small kids in tow it's often not really a choice.

And, finally, my comment was in relation to the suggestion that the OP go for "an early walk" as opposed to have a lie in because, presumably, getting out of the hotel is the only way she can get some peace - not like her husband who is allowed to lie about in bed for hours.
Double standards always.

I'll never understand those who go on holiday to spend the entirety of their time watching football, while screaming and shouting.

I am pleased I'm cultured.

The "go for an early walk" was such an unfun suggestion. Yeah, OP will be getting her own back so much by dragging herself out early for a walk on her own. 🙄

It's so miserable being the only responsible adult in a relationship while the other person does whatever they like and gives no shits how it affects you.

Depressing to read people acting like it's ok because he's a man who works or he's a man & it's football.

It's his marriage, his kid, it's a family holiday.

Yes, exactly this.

So annoying to keep reading "it's his holiday too" especially when the OP has stated how important this holiday is after their brief separation.

People need to raise their bars significantly and stop making excuses for selfish men.