Glam & Fab Part 6 - The Summer of Discontent

[Tanee58]

Hope you all find your way onto this new one !

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oh dior
what a pratt - blame it on the heat - it was hot yesterday.

He is not happy about something though.
Is he jealous of your life now you are not working do you think?

My h is lucky to get anything - there is loads in the freezer - as the times i do make him some supper he says he has already eaten/doesnt fancy what i have cooked.
Other times he moans because i have not left him what the children had eaten (i cant win - which is why i have a whole load of things prepared and if he wants anything he can let me know so i can pop it in the oven) Well unless i out having fun .

How is he with you today?

Course you can Dior anytime - feel free to email/FB/text or call me (think my mobile is on FB will check) - off out now but will check back later

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Dior - congrats on losing a pound - slow and steady... keep up the good work. I certainly don't feel like I'm retaining any water in this heat - but I am certainly drinking a lot (some of it, water )

Is your H speaking to you yet? He is such a traditionalist in some ways, isn't he, the little love . If my two didn't like pasta, they would starve to death!

DP had a funny turn last night - I found him weeping over a Tim Barclay song - it was quite touching, I've never seen him cry before except when acting. He couldn't explain why, but said it felt quite cathartic and he was quite cheerful after that. We sat in the garden till 1am by candlelight and counted the stars.

Trying to work but it's so b**y hot! Had a huge row with our office manager yesterday about cleaning the office (we have to do it ourselves). Normally I get on well with him, but oh, how we shouted at each other - in front of the MP too . Managed to make up later, he sort of admitted he might have overreacted a bit and we had a hug, and I had a massive cleaning session. Raised temperatures means raised tempers. Looking forward to the hols...

Dior, could losing weight make a difference? Or stress? I am not a GP though... Well done on that other lb. A stone will be brilliant!!! Can you talk to H about his grumpiness?

HW, when are you off? Hope you have a fab time. You deserve it.

H has started making rumblings about Xmas and New Year. Does he really have to start on about that already? Aaarrrggh.. Of course, he is trying to come across all reasonable and flexible.

Hey all

Baffy well done you well it just down to him now maybe take follow UC now and make yourself distant and beautiful. I am 100% sure the moving out of his posh pad will definately make a huge difference. Also can't see him impressing ow either with the lack of cash/little bedsit etc.

PC has he had a personality transplant I would say it's your perogative to call theshots at any time and wouldn't worry at all whether that suits h or not.

Dior well done on the pound off , at h i would be tempted to make him nothing !

UC i can't begin to say how much i admire your stance in all this you sound so focused i hope h sees it!

HW is hol tom ? Have lovely time.

Tannee great news about p it sounds like he opened up to his friend and you both want the same thing

CNC sorry to see things still so bad for you. I hope h can start supporting you.

McD hows things ?

I am feeling very for myself. I think i have got a virus. I went to bed when dp got home last night feel shivery and achy with a hight temp. DD was then up from 10.30 until 1 so think she got it too. Gave her calpol but desperate to go back to bed today , fat chance And i should be cleaning / shopping for dd's christening on Sunday!

Lilyloo - heatstroke perhaps? Try to lie down, drink plenty of water and rest - if poss.

Well done dior - infuriating as it is - slow is best - but i know i just want the scales to dramatically drop too.

McD would be interested in your reply to dior as i have exactly the same problem. I always used to be 30+ days and irregular at that - but now 20-24 (max). I wondered if it was the menopause. I have made an appointment with my gp for after the hols as things still dont 'feel' right after the loop. Sorry probably tmi too.

Not sure if i will get on here tomorrow as we go in the evening and h is here all day and we will all be frantic no doubt.

See you in a couple of weeks.

lily, i think so! had a bit of a rant at him last night on text and he called

we are taking dd to Halvorsen tomorrow (hopefully he can make the appt) and he is staying tomorrow night in case dd has any reactions.

i am at end of tether with neighbours and desperate to get out. he just told me we'd have a proper chat about my options and see what we can figure out tomorrow evening.

I am in utter and cautiously

sorry you're feeling crook, especially with teh christening coming up. can dp pull a sickie tomorrow and help out? gotta be advantages to being an employee now eh?

tanee, counting stars sounds lovely.

Dior, I think you're doing great with the weight loss and maybe your cycle is just re-adjusting to that? As for H, don't rise to it. In fact, you could suprise him by being a little bit empathetic back by saying "i know it doesn't seem fair when you're stuck in the office but now I don't do office hours I take my leisure time when it's available"

either that or arrange to go out this evening and leave him a take-away menu and tell him to sort himself out!

HW, have a fabulous holiday. am very !!!

hello everyone else.

hope you're okay baffy and tfm

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I have just been icily polite to one of the rudest men I have ever spoken to on the phone. Being rude and aggressive to an MP's caseworker is NOT the best way to reach an MP (wicked )

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Guess I'm in a Don't f* with me mood this week! OK, anyone else want to take me on?(gets her boxing gloves out)

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And it really, REALLY annoys them !

ok, off home now for a shower and a glass of really cold wine (thinks - is there any gin left? DP gone back to Glos and DD's at a gig, so I shall have a few hours alone with a book.

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LL spot on - still avoiding facing up to it.

Am loving the boundary thing though, I haven't caved in once. In fact I'm just replying to texts re-iterating how I feel and where I stand. Even when I want to do a cheery reply, I remind myself I'm not yet getting what I need, so the boundary stays until I am.

It's all good

about H Dior! Can't believe that. But it's great news about the weight loss it's all in the right direction and you're doing great.

PC who is this man?! It's fantastic progress. I am so so pleased for you. Does TFM know?

lilyloo I'm sorry you're not well. Are you feeling any better?

UC some really good advice from my counsellor was to stop solving problems that don't yet need solving. I was in bits in one session about how I'd cope this Christmas and she said why am I even trying to make decisions that don't need making until December. She helped me to go back to that one day/week at a time focus and be firm with H that we would discuss things nearer to the time. That way you make a decision at the time, based on the circumstances at the time. (And remove the chance of agreeing something now that you no longer feel comfortable with in 5/6 months time.) HTH!

HW have a lovely holiday! I don't think I'll cope without you!!

p.s. chuckling away at you Tanee!

pour me a g and t tanee - and put some of your ice in it for me, its bloody humid here and i am melting.

Well done baffy - either he will get the message and you can take it from there or he wont and you can start to forge ahead for yourself - you really cant lose and you will be able to look yourself in the mirror and feel proud that you gave him every chance to do the right thing. I will email you my mobile too if you like - it would do h good to see me getting 'important' texts on holiday and see that i have a life.

Good advice to uc too - why make future plans so far ahead when anything can happen - living one day at a time is best, but equally you do not want to seem unreasonalbe or feel bullied - tricky.

Anyway i really must go now as i have done the washing now need to actually start to pack it - wish me luck.

Baffy, thanks, that's great advice about Xmas. I think I will just say (and I won't be doing it on email like him) that I certainly will want to have the children with me over the Xmas days, and we can sort out the rest nearer the time.

PC, how amazing a turnaround - has it just happened since you went to that festival last weekend, or was it the one before?

Lily, hope you're feeling better?

Maybe it is something to do with having man trouble that makes periods go awry... I am always 28 days, but it's been getting 1 or 2 days shorter than that the last few months, so instead of always starting on a Fri, it's now a Monday. Which is good for the weekends!

Sounds good HW - I think I may already have your number from one of my mini meltdowns a while ago! Will double check

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