The Dating Thread 60 - Summer Fling!

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

Ffs - I mean if they really have to do this then why not mention this when booking the date in? Or even before.

I’m not against sex on first dates - or ONS per se but from a dating site I expect a nod towards the date bit and I expect to be able to look the goods over in person before making a call on purchase!

I wonder how many of his dates see it through - horrible, horrible man - and stupid with it to do this.

Dodged a bullet Lurchers - 💐

They too often aren’t interested in anything else - relational ones - if that’s what you want - take a long time to find and you may need to hold back to figure this out. Not always but given my experience this last 1-4 years that is mostly the case. Unless of course you really just want a hook up.

Have you cancelled yet?

I would be saying "I'm out".

Thanks, I'll see you and match you a 58 year old "business owner" in mid Devon.
Match and Hinge.

You're spot on!

My friends are people whose values I admire and yep...those benefits are underwhelming 😁💙🩷💜

Welcome @Whocares72

@Ilovelurchers I thought your message was going to end "so he wants to know if he needs his viagra" 😱

Thanks all. Rather stupidly, I am arguing with him over text, attempting to make some kind of point to him about how absurd and insulting he has been. Which clearly is never going to work, and I need to just block and forget.

Yes. Just block. What was his "excuse"?

No excuse. Apparently I am in the wrong. And "how dare I?"

Because he likes sex. So there you go.

(Hate the way men use this as an excuse, as if liking sex makes them somehow edgy and exciting. As if the majority of adults don't like it.....)

I am so glad you didn't go.

I'd have been worried for your safety 💙

@Ilovelurchers What an absolute tosser. Sorry to hear it turned out this way!

I guess from what you’ve told us so far, but like Lurchers said nobody knows him better than you on the thread.

I just don’t like the way he’s treated you and made you feel about yourself

Oh wow!! At least he asked before the date and not during it, I’d have felt so creeped out if that was to happen. Men can be so disappointing but also totally oblivious to it.

Thanks @empirebiscuits12

On reflection the comments on the 21 yo being "obese" were way worse.

Mr Bursar has told me that I am a "patronising cow' and that lots of women "enjoy his approach".

Funny that, because none of the lovely women on here have said they would enjoy being asked about their underwear pre first date, and none of my friends and family I told said they would like it, either.

So who are these women? Inventions of his tiny mind?

Honestly, I am not even against one night stands, if the feeling is right. And I have been known to enjoy sexting with the right guy.

But being asked stuff like that before I have even met, and with my profile and messages clearly stating I am not after hook ups (which he said was "ambiguous'. Presumably he also finds the word "no" ambiguous).

Not finding it fun at the moment. I had the disappointment of Mr T-Rex, on Thursday (which to be fair was nobody's fault - he was a nice guy - just not for me) and then this.....

I'm half tempted to cancel Mr Good-looking tomorrow and just give up! But actually, Good-looking has been nothing but decent. I am not sure we will have much in common, but I do feel weeks of polite daily messaging deserves a date. And maybe he will restore my faith a little after horrible Bursar tonight......

(And all the horror stories I hear from you guys, and from my RL friends. Honestly. I know it's not all men. But sometimes it feels like it's most.....)

@Ilovelurchers have you blocked him now?

This pondlife is not worth your time.

I am SO sorry but don't miss Mr G-L because of this ape xxx