Husband took ring off during lads holiday

[Newbie94]

My husband recently went on a four day lads holiday to butlins (clubbing weekend) with 20 football friends. I noticed that in photos, his wedding band was missing. I’ve checked his phone and messages around that time are squeaky clean. Too clean.

Anyway, I confronted him and he’s admitting to intentionally taking it off but that’s he so so sorry, doesn’t know what he was thinking, would never cheat but just wanted some attention. This is the same man I’ve been begging for attention off for years.

I’m 3 weeks away from giving birth to our second son and not sure what to do or believe. Any comments?

I would bet a lot that the majority of this butlins lads lairy drunken group are reform voters

Why ?

OP what an upset to get this close to birth.

If you feel like he was up to shady behaviour and are comfortable / have permission to go through his phone, there's a few other things you can check besides messages. Locations on Google maps, activity on myactivity.google.com, photos, deleted photos and screenshots, emails / deleted emails, recent follows / messages on social apps, hidden chats on whatsapp, new phone numbers in his phone, downloaded apps / new apps, and probably most telling for a lads holiday, bank and revolut charges.

I would really prioritize protecting your peace this close to meeting your baby though, and hope this suggestion doesn't give you any distress. 💐

That’s like asking why I’d bet a lot on whether someone who is a vegan and doesn’t drive or ever take an aeroplane is a Green Party voter

it is like me saying I’d bet a lot that you vote reform @TheTealHiker

AKA as a safe bet

That's me but I don't vote Green so you'd loose your money !

Well no, as I say I’d bet a lot who you do vote for!!

But you just said that someone like me who doesn't drive, never flies and is vegan votes Green. I also grow a lot of our own food and recycle anything that isn't nailed down.
So make your mind up which definition you want to apply !

Good god you epically misunderstood

the vegan post had nothing to do with you. It was about safe bets

the reform post… definitely about you. A safe bet.

I said “someone” who was vegan and didn’t travel by aeroplane. Not you @TheTealHiker

And on that note… I’m off to bed!

I didn't 'misunderstand' at all, epically or otherwise.

At 21.19 you said . That’s like asking why I’d bet a lot on whether someone who is a vegan and doesn’t drive or ever take an aeroplane is a Green Party voter.

And you got it wrong.

It's not my fault if you can't make yourself understood.

And you'd be wrong about me being a Reform voter as well 🙂

Maybe you should stop making silly generalisations ? 🤔

It's really only become more common for men round my way to wear wedding rings recently. Might be because this was a coalmining area and you couldn't wear rings down the pit.

My dad's wedding ring was a signet ring, but he only wore it on nights out. (Yes, dad was a coalminer.)

Thinking about it, I don't see a lot of men in Fife wearing wedding rings even now.

Yeah sounds like he has done her a favour this weekend.

hopefully this is the end of the relationship & she can move on, find some confidence & a man who loves her for her & doesn’t cheat or act like an absolute twat

"be careful not to over react."

Are you serious?!?! You think he cheated on her- it's a good possibility he gave her chlamydia or herpes (or other STDs, lots to choose from!) and she's overreacting? Do you know that herpes can kill a baby if its mother is having a breakout during delivery?? Your apathetic opinion in uninformed and dangerous! That situation could escalate into something really bad.

@Newbie94, I think you should tell your HCP that there's a good possibility he cheated. They need this info to keep your and your baby bean safe. In a friend's case she was given a powerful antibiotic before delivery to protect the child. The baby was fine; the mother was embarrassed but she put that aside and made her own and her baby's health the priority.

Please tell them. His behavior, whether he cheated or not, was terribly irresponsible. Make sure he has clean test results before having any kind of sex with him.

I'm so sorry that he's caused you to lose trust, especially at a vulnerable time. I hope you have a safe birth, and that you and your children will be happy. 🌹

you took “someone” to mean you. When clearly I was saying in the next post that it is ALSO a safe bet that you are a reform voter. So I gave the example what would be the safe bet for a green party voter too.

look I have no idea whether you eat meat or not. I have no idea whether you drive or not. I wouldn’t offer a bet either away because I have no idea!! I am saying that if I knew “someone” Was a vegan / didn’t travel abroad ever - it would be a safe bet that a Green Party voter.

and then I followed up explicitly referring to you and even quoting you @TheTealHiker to say that is is also a safe bet that YOU are a reform voter based on this thread.

and this latest epic misunderstanding from you somewhat adds to this safe being a very safe one! 🤭

So if I’m wrong about you being a reform voter why did you seem to take such gross offence at the poster saying that bunch of grotty lads were likely boozy reform voters? @TheTealHiker

I had always thought butlins was a cheap and cheerful family resort?

this group of men would have likely been so horribly obnoxious. Op say he was as pure as the driven snow on this holiday, there’s been issues for many years that aren’t going to magically disappear. He sounds truly awful man in so many respects. This is no way to live and certainly a diabolical example of a marriage for your kids.

You can do this

I would take offence at anyone making stupid generalisations and insulting people.
The House of Commons bar is home to drunks of all stripes.

Very true.
A good friend of mine lost her baby at a very late stage of pregnancy after her H gave her an STD he caught from some woman he cheated with.
Obviously she never forgave him, nor should she ever.

My ex boyfriend got married to the woman he was seeing after me and they went on to have DC. I didn't know her but I did bump into them a couple of times and she seemed really lovely.
He used to go out with 'the lads' 🙄 now and then and apparently always took his wedding ring off. In fact he made a point of taking it off to indicate that their night out had just got started 😩
He cheated on her for years and then eventually had an affair with another ex girlfriend in another country and fucked off and left his wife and DC.

I guarantee he will still be doing it too.

Boot him out OP. Him and his friendship group are toxic as fuck and clearly serial cheats.

and in the last decade @KaleQueen has he never given you cause to question him again?

He showed himself up to be a liar, sketchy and no doubt a cheater. I’d be surprised if he had an epiphany

Why have you sought me out and tag replied me on two completely separate threads this morning? Ps still very happily married not that it’s got anything to do with you.

I didn’t seek you out. How bizarre.

Happily married? Okay. That’s good then 🤷‍♀️

What an odd coincidence then that you’ve tag replied me on two completely separate and unrelated threads - this one days old - in the space of 4 mins since 7am then. How very very strange. Very strange behaviour.
Neither of which are currently ‘trending’.
Strange, odd. Frankly weird.

🤷‍♀️

strange behaviour is taking your wedding ring off and being sketchy about it