Husband says he has the ick and criticises my habits

[GotTheIckWithMe]

Dh has told me he’s ’got The ick’

That over the last few months he’s needed more time away from me as ‘little things were annoying’ and he can’t put up with certain ‘habits’ anymore. He thinks I’m lazy and he worries about the image I have and how that will affect the dc.

We used to go out once a week but he stopped that two weeks ago and made excuses. He’s now said he can’t stand the way I act when out and how I eat. I’m quite shy and he finds it ‘embarrassing’ . He’s very chatty and sociable.

I don’t know what I’m meant to do ?

I think you should ask him to move out or at the very least go and do something for yourself and refuse to spend any time with him. This won't resolve by you doing what he says. It's over really.

His whole attitude sounds icky. I agree with what another PP said, he could be cheating.

He worries about the affect you have on your children? Who the hell is he to question you? It sounds like he's looking for an out of the relationship and instead of being mature and honest, he's starting arguments with you so it seems it's your fault.

Why are you putting up with this? I would tell him to piss off.

Sort yourself out and get off mumsnet.

Heartbreaking that women give their life to a man and in return they get this absolute bullshit. Start being REALLY cold to him and tell him you are thinking of leaving. See if that makes him pull his head in. If someone doesn't want to be with you, then you shouldn't want to be with them as painful as that is it's the truth.

She came here for advice and I the op now knowing about the script will help her. I agree with the others, his head has been turned and he’s acting like a spineless prick.

This is a really beautiful and wise reply and I hope the OP reads it. It celebrates the positives and acknowledges the current reality without nuking the whole relationship. I agree, these very long relationships often just run their natural course as each partner grows and changes which impacts compatability.

And better looking.

op I work full time and I’d be divorced if dh EITHER thought I should pay for the cleaner or didnt pull his weight at home.
I’d bet actual money he’s cheating, but it sounds like you’re well rid of him.

’I’ve been thinking about what you said, and your fairly awful behaviour over the past few months, and it has me wondering who else you’re sleeping with to trigger you being so horrible to me. I’m sure it will be all ‘it just happened last week’ innocence when you try and tell your friends about her in a couple of months, but either way I will be much happier, and even tidying the house will be satisfying knowing I’m not tidying up after my lazy selfish nasty controlling lying asshole of a husband. I can’t wait to see if you just welcome the kids to your shithole or now that you don’t have me on hand to treat as an indentured slave you suddenly have a cleaner of your own. We can sit down with the kids on Saturday for you to tell them, when are you leaving?

i smell freedom and happiness in your future.

Have you read the follow up posts?

He does sweet fa around the house and always has done so
He criticises the Op

and the Op herself seems to despise him (rightfully so)

this isn’t a broken marriage. This is a rotten apple of a marriage

What a horrible man!