Yes tonight act as normal as you can. I know you have seen the full horror but try hard not to be any difference or you may find he decides to work from home as his suspicions may be raised. Hopefully the glow of having done what he intended will carry him through the next couple of days.
What is the normal routine tomorrow - who does school runs/ nursery? Are you due to be in work?
Dont change anything. You can collect them from school or nursery as you leave, but you again do not want anything out of the normal. Do you ever ask him what he fancies for dinner? Id be tempted to do that if so, so that he thinks all is normal.Dont do it if you dont usually. Just think about a typical morning and thats how tomorrow plays out.
Apple watch is not always 100% accurate, it may say you are awake when you are in a light sleep or have awoken and fell back - so the shorter times may simply be that your sleeping in a heightened state on alert for danger, and him moving could have caused you to blip awake, not that anything was actually happening.
I think previously you said that you know where all the passports etc are. You mention i-cloud, so I would hold back opening an online account until you are away, and tomorrow morning ask your mum if you can transfer your wages and some money from the joint account into her account for the moment - you dont want him to clear your account while you are waiting for the new one to be verified.
You also need a new SIM - or even better a new phone. and some kind of data storage to download your info. I would not trust him to lock you out of your phone and to also have some kind of notifications. Turn off location. Make sure he cant track where you are and turn up at the supermarket when you are not protected.
He will try to get you on your own because it has always worked before.
Be aware of the cycle. You know about the love bombing, this has been a weakness in the past, and you know he will play on the guilt. For himself, the poor broken man.For the children being deprived of a good father. It is best to just go complete no contact. This is why a new SIM is good as he wont have your number so you will be safe from his bombardment.
Speak to your work, see if you can take some leave. explain what has happened and make sure he cannot come to your workplace. Speak to school and to nursery and explain the kids will not be coming in for at least the next 2 weeks. Unfortunately without a court order he can and he will go and take them from either place and not return them. His aim now will be to bring you back under his control by any means possible and if him taking the kids will do that, then he will do that.
You do however have the ace card, which is the threat of the police. Coercive control, as a minimum, with rape and sexual abuse, the videos and whatever is likely on his hard drive. Id keep that keg dry for now, but if he wont respect your request for him to leave you alone for , say a min 2 weeks, then you can threaten to report him initially for harassment. He should back off. If you see him hanging around, then that moves to stalking. I would speak to WA for the wording of a message to send before your phone switches off that lays out the bones of this. The wording is important, you need to demonstrate that you have told him not to contact you, and that in time you will contact him around child visitation.
And good luck Poet. I think that once you are free from his presence, both physically and mentally, that you will be safe to never want to go back. He has broken his own spell, and I really believe that there is no coming back from that.
Sending you all the hugs and love