Partner wants me out and I do not feel able to cope alone

[Purplehearts45]

He keeps trying to chuck me out the house he said your gone after I made a mess several times in the bathroom . recently I spoke to some people at a shop they asked if I was okay so I told them a bit about my situation, the girl at the shop said I could talk to her anytime so I said some things about my situation he then said he wanted to talk to me the people at the mushroom shop had told everything we both said to him he said he had enough , he said this is why we have to move on I feel betrayed by the people in the mushroom shop they misquoted what I’d said he was angry.

He also he I was very miserable a while back he said we are selling the house as I came home after a few bears I was a bit tipsy my daughter was being cared for by him . I can’t do anything right I have no friends as they are ignoring me as they are busy my neighbour is in a bad way and wants to be left alone I’ve only got him and my daughter, my mum is too busy to see me very often , she told me to toughen up which wasn’t helpful she told me not to cry over losing my family and the house he says I go on about myself which he calls me a nightmare but I’m struggling I got discharged from mental health services recently they said I’m fine I’m not I’m taking antidepressants my antipsychotic s and benzos I’m only taking about my self as I’m struggling and looking for support I’m feeling scared about losing my family and my home , a social worker has tried to get me a flat by myself but that wouldn’t work I need supported accommodation i really wouldn’t cope living on my own

There’s a lot to unpick here. Is your daughter his? Whose house is it-which names?

What mess did you leave in the bathroom? Socks on the floor or poo up the walls?!

Have you been to the citizens advice? I have no idea how easy it is to get supported accommodation.

Why has my message been deleted? This is hippychick, she posts nearly daily about this and needs to get help to leave. He is not obligated to stay with her.

I keep beating myself up over keeping on to him in the past and now he ended the marriage because I couldn’t stop talking while I was very emotional over our relationship differences I wish I’d shut up

@Purplehearts45
Have you support in real life? MN cannot help you - you have posted multiple times about your situation and it's extremely difficult - especially for your daughter.

This makes no sense OP.

@howshouldibehave
Not socks on the floor - the other suggestion you made.

Poop on the floor. Op needs to realise he can't be forced to care for her or be with her any more. Not sure why mn deleted that?

Duplicated

What's a mushroom shop?

i post as I’m in a difficult situation I’m not saying he has to stay with me but the reasons he’s given for us to separate are unfair I tried to clean up the bathroom and I said nothing bad about him to the people at the mushroom shop

You don’t need to agree with his reasons OP, they are HIS reasons, they are how HE feels, you don’t get to decide that is right or wrong.

You need to stop focusing on this and start focusing on finding a way to move out and build your own life outside of him.

Do you own or rent the house?

I’m afraid that his reasons do not need to be fair, a person can leave for any reason they want.

Is there anyone who is able to help you at all? Are you under the care of any professionals, or have you family of your own that you could turn to?

On one specific point, if as others have suggested you are pooing on the floor, have you a medical issue that your GP can help with?

I want to know what a mushroom shop is too.

A mushroom shop like a place for drugs??

You need to see your GP. And take your medication again. Urgently. Please go to the mental health people you know.

Sorry about your situation OP, but if it's his house and he wants to separate you have to accept his decision. Some relationships fail, it's ok to feel sad about it but you need to make arrangements for other housing for you and your daughter. If you are on medication for your mental health, it's generally advised to abstain from alcohol. Acceptance is the hardest part.

Perhaps you should let your social worker help you get that 1 bedroom flat.

Going on posts above, have you got physical disabilities/ conditions as well as mental health ones? Can you physically look after yourself in a small flat? Has your SW suggested you apply for DLA, and/ or a social care package, if you need carers?

What did you do to the bathroom?
Do you mean a shop dedicated to selling mushrooms?
You would probably be happier living on your own, rather than be with someone that resents you.

What's a mushroom shop?

Also your social worker can do another disabled adult needs assessment once you are placed in a flat and support can come to you, you don't have to be in supported living to get support.

There might not be enough/any of the right sort of facilities in your area and your social worker will also be taking into account your child when making these assessments.

Please see your GP about resuming your medication. Your posts are a bit incoherent, which I imagine is due to the stress but you need to be speaking to your GP as you're not in a good place to be making these decisions.

Are you married? If so you have rights. Please call social services for help, and your GP to get your medication on track.
Probably stay away from "mushroom shops" as well x

Are you taking mushrooms instead of your medication? Op you spiralling and need urgent mental health help. If he’s said it’s over down to your behaviour then you need to respect him. Are you disabled? Why can’t you live in a flat? You can’t live with him if it’s over and there aren’t many supported living places about. Please contact your social worker and get the ball rolling.

Have you started several threads about this. @Purplehearts45 ?

Yeah her partner has been telling her to leave for years at this point.