Was I wrong to be upset by being called a nightmare ex?

[FlowerPower8282]

Out for drinks last night. Talking to a friend of a friend who I’ve never met before. She had a reasonably strong opinion of me which I was shocked about.

The conversation was about ex husbands and their roles in our lives now we are divorced.

I said that I expected my exh to pay me maintenance. She was in agreement until she realised we co-parent 50/50. Exh pays all of the children’s expenses. I pay my household bills which obviously includes some clothing for my children when they are with me and their food.

I also mentioned that I am upset with the time he spends with his new girlfriend and that she is playing mum to my children. I don’t like the girlfriend and have no interest in her whatsoever. I don’t acknowledge her if I see her. She isn’t like me and has different interests and approaches to me. For example, I spend a lot of time on my appearance, weekly blow drys, nails, lashes, new clothes, gym sessions etc She seems to not spend any time on her appearance whatsoever. Now he’s with her, he’s changed. He used to agree with me and now argues with me. He won’t pay for my expenses like he used to and even suggested I stop trying to control him and focus on my new partner.

The friend of my friend was quite rude to me. She said I sound like a nightmare ex and then went on to say that I have no right to his money or his time and to leave him alone.

Am right to be upset? The evening ended awkwardly and my friend in the middle is upset and won’t comment on the situation.

It's never nice to be told we're in the wrong. I don't think you need to have anything to do with your ex's new partner. But I think it's unreasonable of you to expect him to pay for your luxuries. Tough though it is his new girlfrie is now his priority.

🤪🤪 he’s paying for the children. What you are upset about is he is no longer paying for you. Get a job and sort your life out.

You aren’t family. The children are, I imagine they are still allowed to use the Uber account.

You are so entitled. It doesn't matter how much he earns as long as he is paying for his children. You are an ex. Why on earth should he pay your expenses! 😂

FFS 😂 nooone is this stupid or entitled surely? You're the EX 🙄

I started out thinking it was a reverse but then OP went over the top, and now it’s clear it’s fiction. I’ve reported it, but MN will probably just delete my post for troll hunting, rather than the crazy thread 😂

So many troll posts lately. 🙄

On the off chance this is serious…. He does pay for the children, you seem to be expecting him to pay for you. More fool him for doing so for 5 years but he’s now decided to move on with his life- maybe supported by his new partner, but he should have done it long ago but I suspect you would have made his life a nightmare.
Maybe try stopping being so superficial, getting a (better) job and focusing on your own life. The only people you are hurting by your petty behaviour are yourself and your kids, who are unlikely to respect you in the long run if this is how you behave.

I don't think this post is real. Mind you, I think that about more and more posts on MN. It's getting like reddit.

This has to be a wind up!

Got to be a wind up. Yes you sound like a nightmare ex and that was before I read your further posts. He pays for boarding school and you used his Uber account and mobile. Jesus, you sound like a spoilt, pouting brat.

I think the new girlfriend sounds far more amiable than you.

No your ex shouldn't be paying maintenance, he already pays more towards your children. Go and make more money if you need extra for you wigs and nails. Horrid entitled post Op.

I think you should show this to your current boyfriend at least give the poor bugger chance to run when he knows what hes in for

Obvious windup is obvious

Is this for real? If it is, I'm afraid you do seem to have a strange view of the world and gross sense of entitlement.

Would you rather be called a gimme🐷?

What I'm curious about with all this is: what do you actually think you should pay for, for your own life and your children?

Why do you think he should pay for the children when they're with you, when the CMS already covers his contribution for that?

Or do you just think your ex should be an open wallet for you forevermore?

No idea why you're upset - she told the truth. You are a nightmare ex, you're rude to his new partner and you expect way too much (Uber account for example - you are not 'family' now.

I'm sure this is made up

If its his business it is his money.
I get sick to the back teeth of people we have employed taking the piss with things like expenses because it's 'business money'. No, its money off our bottom line so ultimately out of our pockets.
Out of interest, when the children are with their father, how much do you contribute to their upkeep?

If this is all made up for attention - grow up.

If it is all true - also grow up.

What does jump the shark mean? Seen it twice now.

I think she's absolutely right. I bet your ex is delighted to be with someone less self-obsessed.

Jumping the shark means resorting to ridiculous gimmicks in an effort to maintain attention. It is usually TV shows which become increasingly reliant on cameos to hide their decline in quality.

His business is his money ! And if you are not taking ubers or using apple for his business then his accountant probably advised him to stop you from using it.
You seem quite entitled. Your friend was a bit rude but you are also coming across as grabby

Learn to drive then , why on earth should he be financially responsible for you. If this is even real you sound bitter, resentful and entitled.