(TW SA) Continuing support & sharing things…

[PinkPoetAgaiin]

Hi again everyone,

Making a new thread as some of the lovely ladies who have been supporting me for over a month now suggested I can continue to share my thoughts & feelings dealing with sexual & financial abuse (& other things) from my husband who I’ve been with since I was 18 (15 years).

Will be on and off for a bit as young DC is unwell at the moment and that’s taking all my energy.

I am not yet at the point of leaving - please don’t shout at me for being a bad mum. I did get a lot of criticism on my last thread for not getting them out immediately and I just can’t for reasons I explained.

Life feels heavy, but I’m focusing on DC at the moment ❤️

@PinkPoetAgaiin Dear Poet, I really hope you're okay today and that the event was bearable 💐

Thinking the same and I hope you and the dc are safe and remain so x

So, I was asked to post this somewhere, and I’m not sure where. So I’m posting it several times 🙈
I think the context may be about communication, how when men don’t hear it isn’t about communication but about entitlement.

It may not seem immediately relevant, but the same woman does a lot about men’s entitlement to a woman’s body, to regulate themselves. She seems good on helping you see the problem isn’t you, not your fault, not yours to solve.

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1Ama6Bqd1G/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I'm not putting my password in that link and I wouldn't recommend anyone else to either.

Day went well and kids had a good day.
I am in a terribly anxious state because I’m bed this evening he said a direct quote from one of your replies .
It was a ‘saying’ - could have been a coincidence but it made my blood run cold that he’s somehow found this and is fucking with me

Remember that if he has read this thread then he will know that your friend knows about it too, and that you have also confided in your therapist and additionally to Women's Aid.

You are not alone in this anymore, there are multiple people in real life who know what is really going on in your home and these are strong forms of insurance to protect you from him.

If you are in real fear then do not hesitate to dial 999.

I hope it’s a coincidence but I get it about you blood running cold. Please keep clearing your browsers ect and try not to disappear from us as we be worried about you :(
If you are very fearful do not hesitate to call 999. Stay safe x

What was the saying? Probably a coincidence x

Does he have access to any of your email accounts? Is it possible you can have it enabled where your email address receives a notification if a message has been sent to you on this platform?

Is anything like that likely?

Have you got a pass code for your phone , not just a thumbprint or face recognition?

I was thinking that he may well be reading the thread because he has been quite restrained for him lately.

It's unlikely he's read if, but if he has, he knows you've confided in others, he knows you are now aware of how wrong his actions are and that he's a rapist. He might be angry, but he's also in a vulnerable position, because your starting to fight against this, even if you aren't strong enough to say the words yet. He knows that if he did anything to you, then you've got a written account of things he's done, and so he's less likely to try anything, because it all links back to him now.

I think it’s unlikely honestly, have you ever seen him reading mumsnet. Sayings are very commonly used and known by most. What were the circumstances and what was said?

I think you’d know already if he’d read your thread here, he wouldn’t have been able to keep a lid on his reaction.