Friend posted a harsh message in group chat after my apology

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Group of friends (6) for 10 years. One is ultra sensitive borderline professional victim. I thought I’d upset her recently so before the others arrived I apologised. She replied very angrily, so I explained that I was shocked at the incident and apologised again. She was very aggressive so I explained that she also upset people. She stopped when the others arrived.

We sat for two hours chatting and laughing.

When I got home there was the most awful post on our group chat saying how I ‘launched a passive aggressive attack under the guise of an apology and could not put up with such unkindness so would leave our group but would welcome seeing people for coffee’.
Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated. On a group chat for my friends to read. How could someone do that.
I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.
Please talk me down.
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A solicitor?!

Why did you think you’d upset her in the first place? What were you apologising for and what was said?

Sue her for what? Being unreasonable and dramatic is not a material loss. Just tell her to fuck off and have done with it. Don't join her in the Melodrama Awards.

id just reply with a few laughing emoji faces and be like “well we know you can over react and play the victim, but this is insane Doris. Anyway, you do you babes”

she wants a reaction, just laugh at her. Best way to burst her self important balloon.

Sue her for what?

What did you apologise for?

...sue her? I'm wondering if you are just as bad as she is with a reaction like that.

My thought when you said she flounced was, "Great that sorted itself out then."

Reply back on the group chat. I would address the other people in the group about this, mentioning as she’s brought it into the group you feel you have to respond similarly

Solicitor? For social media? I’d really just get on with life. 🙄

Not sure what a solicitor would be able to do here, but your life will certainly be easier without her in it. Every cloud and all that.

Sue her for what?

I hope you realise the solicitor comment is nonsense and just being over dramatic?

Has this friend any reason to be hurt?
Had you upset them?
Was your apology passive aggressive?

Has tension been brewing recently?
Does she knowsense you think she is a "professional victim" ?

Its good she has stepped away as she is obviously feeling hurt (justified or not).

I'd not be saying much to the other friends apart from a "genuinely sorry, I never meant to upset them."

Let it calm down.

Bin the group. Move on

Blimey I thought "Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated" was OTT.

Then I read about the 'solicitor!' 😬🙈

If she's left the group that sounds like a tidy outcome.

Just meet up with the others and let her do as she wishes about meeting them separately.

Breathe and focus. Sue her? Dont be as batshit as her. It sounds to me like the rubbish took itself out here. Relax, enjoy, and laugh at her dramatics. Jeez, some people always make it about them - she sounds exhausting..

Maybe she’s not the problem here….

A solicitor? 🤣

A solicitor for a WhatsApp message? That indicates that it’s likely to be you that is being unreasonable here.

What do you to to upset her and what do she to to upset you that made you think you needed to discuss it before a get together in the first place?

Maybe your apology did come across as a passive aggressive attack.

Just ignore it.

It seems like the rubbish took itself out.
Thats a good result imho 🤣

It's sounding like she may not be the only professional victim.

Sue her for what?! If you upset her then you apologise, own your part and move on. Your apology kind of sounds like an apology with a but and a redirection back to her.

The grown up thing to do here would have been to apologise, if she didn't accept it move on and then ignore the dramatic message in the group chat with an eye roll.

You need to add a context as no one can properly reply without knowing what you did or she said (just a small idea). It sounds bad if you are considering a solicitor or was that a bit OTT?

She left the group? Result! What do the others think?

You both sound ridiculously melodramatic, probably best to avoid each other.

What was the incident you were apologising for?

Are these 6 people the only people on your life? I think the other woman isn’t the only sensitive one. You need some perspective. Read the news, go for a walk, talk to some
strangers, read a book. This is an extremely extreme reaction to someone behaving badly.