Friend posted a harsh message in group chat after my apology

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Group of friends (6) for 10 years. One is ultra sensitive borderline professional victim. I thought I’d upset her recently so before the others arrived I apologised. She replied very angrily, so I explained that I was shocked at the incident and apologised again. She was very aggressive so I explained that she also upset people. She stopped when the others arrived.

We sat for two hours chatting and laughing.

When I got home there was the most awful post on our group chat saying how I ‘launched a passive aggressive attack under the guise of an apology and could not put up with such unkindness so would leave our group but would welcome seeing people for coffee’.
Shocked, ripped to pieces, sick I was devastated. On a group chat for my friends to read. How could someone do that.
I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her.
Please talk me down.
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Is this also the pizza stealer?
I’m getting similar vibes 🙄

Dramatic much 🤣🤣

I would reply and say ‘I apologised to you, that’s all there is to it, there is no need for you or I to leave the group?’

Need more info before we can tell who is in the wrong really. What had you supposedly done to upset her? Was she justified in being upset? What does she do that upsets people?

What was your apology message like?

Your reaction in your post is well OTT, like seriously did the message truly make you have all of those feelings, or is it because she called you out in the group that caused all those feelings. Was your apology sincere, why wait for a meet up to apologise, could you have not apologised in advance by taking her for coffee or something.
And solicitor?? She hasn't said anything other than she felt your apology was not genuine and as a result wants to terminate the friendship with you.

Perfect reaction!

You both sound dramatic and ridiculous

Didn't know there was such a thing as pantomime at Easter

Why were you friends with her when you can't stand her? You can be relieved she's flounced. You both sound a bit volatile. Why on earth would you think you can sue her for calling you passive aggressive, get a grip.

I’m not using my free will enough…

I feel so strongly about this I am thinking of seeing a solicitor to sue her

The fact that you would even think of that is so unbelievably batishit that I'm assuming you're the problem here, or maybe it's the both of you.

I’m a solicitor and you have no cause of action for being insulted or hurt by her opinion (which is that you launched a “passive aggressive attack”). So consider yourself talked down from that.

I’d just speak to the others calmly and neutrally explaining whatever it was that happened (your OP doesn’t give details of what you did to upset her), saying you’re sorry she’s so upset, and then just leave it. Fanning the flames of these things never helps. If she doesn’t like you, so what?

So, as I understand it, something your former friend has said on a Whatsapp post to 4 mutual friends, has caused you great distress

You have all known each other for 10 years so the 4 mutual friends will understand both of your personalities and the dynamics which have caused this falling out between you

Your former friend has left the group

So why, exactly, are you consulting a solicitor? This has happened on Whatsapp and only affects yourself, your former friend & 4 mutual friends. It hardly seems worthy of threats of suing someone . . . .

You think you upset her so you apologised and she didn't accept it. I am not sure if she was unreasonable not to but it's hard to know without more details. You appear to have got defensive when she didn't just say it was fine.

Presumably, your friends know what she is like.

It all sounds a bit dramatic.

I would love to hear what you think you can sue her for though!!

So what was the ‘incident’ you apologised to her for? This makes a difference

Rather than suing her, maybe just respond with: “Eh?”

😂

It's a pity Peter Carter-Ruck is no longer alive, as this sort of case might well have been right up his street.

A solicitor? Sorry, what?

Once again we have an OP who posts a ridiculous thread and then disappears.....

I don't think she's the only dramatic one...