We all know that one person that always orders the most expensive thing when someone else is paying, but… extreme content 😂

[AliceR1]

What is it with men and being totally reckless with money? Guy and I, known each for about 5 years, went exclusive about six months ago. It’s his birthday next week so I said I’d take him out for a birthday meal out. He picked the place so I knew it wasn’t going to be budget but what I wasn’t planning on was him ordering a £100 bottle of wine followed by more by the glass. I wasn’t drinking as I drove there and back. He knows I’m not in the poor category but that’s essentially down to extreme budgeting, which he’s well aware of. It was a nice mea out, totally ruined by me still internally stewing over the fact that I picked up a tab the equivalent of a monthly food budget for me and two kids and totally put me off sticking around him for a moment longer. We do get on but this really narked me.

Sigh … people are so disappointing with other people’s money 🙁 When my DM passed away everyone at the funeral was invited to the local pub for refreshments after. I opened a tab for everyone to have a drink. I left after the food as I don’t drink alcohol and I’m not close to my family. I said goodbye to everyone and I asked the owner to settle up and he said don’t worry, come back in a day or two. When I did go to settle up I saw from the itemised bill that the family who remained carried on drinking on my tab into the night. And ordered themselves food too! Who does that at a funeral?

So you didn't even get a glass of the Bordeaux? All that money and not even a taste?

At a relatives funeral someone had 20 pints. 20.

I realise it's not the main point, and that you've already come to the right decision anyway, but just drinking that much on a date when I'm not drinking with you would have been off putting enough, without having me foot the bill!
Glad you've seen the light OP but wondering, having read your updates, what you saw in him in the first place! (Mind you, it's a question I ask myself about a couple of exes...)

I can’t help but wonder why if you were hosting and know what he is like why you didn’t take charge of the wine list and order something reasonable?

I think op said he ordered a bottle of wine with the meal when the wait staff took their order and she didn’t think for one minute that he would choose one that cost £100 she just thought he was ordering an average priced bottle.

Don’t offer again and make sure he treats you on your birthday

What do you see in him as friend.
He sounds like a real bat if shite to me.

He's a parasite. Get rid pronto

That’s just so disrespectful. I know that I’d feel that more than one drink is excessive if someone else is paying …I blame myself as I should have been more explicit and said ‘close my tab’. We live and hopefully learn.

He’s blocked me on Facebook now too, charming, penny dropped that that was the last supper.

What a waste of space.

God what an absolute twat.

No apology, no self-awareness, no respect for others or for the relationship at all.

Very well done for blocking - he is clearly fishing to try to get you to engage with him (so that he can weasel his way back in without apologising or addressing his behaviour). Leaving him hanging with no answer is perfect. He's not even worth saying goodbye to.

I’m still utterly gobsmacked that he thought it ok to get an entire bottle when he knew she wasn’t drinking. A normal person would get a glass and then ok, perhaps one more. Well rid of him.

I'm surprised it wasn't their own funeral too, after that many

He's blocked her.....

OP blocked him first - see her post at 17.38 today.

A boozer and a calculating user. You’ll probably gain lots of sympathy as he’s leeched from others. Keep spreading the word.

Oh God OP, I've read all your updates. What a complete tosser and a total loser. You're well off out of it. You put your children first and are doing your best by them. In contrast, I feel really sorry for his child and also the mother of his child.
You deserve to put yourself and your children first. I hope you recognise the red flags next time! Good luck with everything.

At my mother’s funeral - she died suddenly and young at 58 - my coke head brothers wife did 20 lines of cocaine.

I don't think it's just guys who indulge in this behavior, and I completely understand your annoyance. I think you two are just a mismatch when it comes to getting seriously serious. Exclusive as in dating and sex, is completely fine, and, I wouldn't personally marry someone who was so casual with money like that. Some people are cool with that kind of spending, but my husband and I are a lot more judicious.

That's basically nad manners and little empathy. When i met DH, he was working and I was a student, also worked pt. Je would neber have demanded or expected this. Sorry I can't see what I'm typing with this malfunction of replies and can't go back to edit. Xx

So he's one of those people who at the hint of criticism decide to cut a former friend or relative, out of their life just like that.
You don't need somebody disrespecting you that way. His rude reply irks me more than him being a greedy pig. A normal person would be mortified to realize at their own behavior, apologuise and insist on paying back you half of the dinner and all the alcohol.

Yes how disappointing of him. Can't get over ordering the expensive bottle of wine that you don't even drink but subjected to pay for! The audacity of some men. At least he has shown his true colours early on I suppose.

Ah...ok, sorry didn't see that....I'm v glad she blocked him first in that case :)

Who do you think would be a match for a CF like this who doesn’t work and seems to be all out for himself?! Lol

Personally I don’t think it’s completely fine to casually date or have sex with this lazy selfish man who is happy to treat someone - a fellow single parent at that - so poorly, when she was just trying to give him a good birthday.

I think you’re missing the point somewhat. It’s not the fact he spends a lot. I’ve known people who earn well and choose to splurge, but it’s up to them how they spend their hard earned money .

The issue here is aside from the fact he’s long term on benefits and seems to have a poor work ethic, he only seems to be “casual” with money when it comes to spending OPs.