We all know that one person that always orders the most expensive thing when someone else is paying, but… extreme content 😂

[AliceR1]

What is it with men and being totally reckless with money? Guy and I, known each for about 5 years, went exclusive about six months ago. It’s his birthday next week so I said I’d take him out for a birthday meal out. He picked the place so I knew it wasn’t going to be budget but what I wasn’t planning on was him ordering a £100 bottle of wine followed by more by the glass. I wasn’t drinking as I drove there and back. He knows I’m not in the poor category but that’s essentially down to extreme budgeting, which he’s well aware of. It was a nice mea out, totally ruined by me still internally stewing over the fact that I picked up a tab the equivalent of a monthly food budget for me and two kids and totally put me off sticking around him for a moment longer. We do get on but this really narked me.

Out of interest, what "values" do you think he has?

Because I honestly can't see any that could be aligned with

Just think of it this way - you’ve paid the CF Tax. £300 is probably a bargain to be rid of a leech like him.

You live and learn.

@AliceR1 i see in subsequent comments that you’ve dumped him, so your birthday is irrelevant in this situation. He’ll be history by the end of the week, let alone June.

send him the text to tell him to transfer the booze bill

this is money you needed for your kids

he’s stolen from them.

he chose the wine by pointing at it on the menu, he ABSOLUTELY knew what he was doing to you.

when you mentioned to him that he’d literally pissed hundreds of quid against the wall his reply WASN’T “Omg, I’m so sorry <insert totally fabricated BS because he absolutely did this to you on purpose> I’ll send you the money now”

GET ANGRY LOVE!
(((Hug)))

what you’ve posted since is mind blowing, he’s vastly overweight, lazy and a total loss as a man.

my love, you’re worth so much more than this.

I do NOT want you to blame yourself for any of this, your a kind and loving person, he could have had that in his life and lived better with you, built something special with you, but the misogynistic little prick resents your life/family so much he deliberately stripped your cash from you. An unemployed loser ordered, what?, £140 worth of wine, all on the QT, pointing at it to the waiter in FULL knowledge that there is no chance in hell you’d ever order it.

At least it’s over and you know what a CF he is.

Blimey 20 stone and mooching benefits. Is his name Wayne Slob?

Any journalist knows very well the difference between an expense account and his father paying. There’s no excuse, that was pure greed.
If my son tried that he’d get the mother of all rollickings.

Now you’re rid of him @AliceR1 , all that remains is for you to think carefully about how to protect yourself from getting into a relationship like this ever again. There are so many clear red flags in your posts, and you gave him the benefit of the doubt every time. An objective bystander looking at your relationship would have seen that you were being taken advantage of.
I know it’s easier said than done, especially if you’re looking at a person’s good qualities (it’s easier to spot someone who seems 100% awful!), but now you’ve had this experience it’s an opportunity to resolve not to ignore bad flaws next time.

This. Either they are a cheeky fucker who’s the type to take the piss (which you’d know, having known them for 5 years and been in a relationship with) or they’re not.

For anyone invested in the outcome, the ‘wow’ was followed by ‘oh well bye then’, zero chance of recovering any cost. I’m seething but it is what it is, nothing I can do, shame on me for entertaining a spineless cznt who was in just for the free ride.

Shocking after 5 years. Bye then! You dodged a bullet @AliceR1

My jaw has just dropped. He is a complete slug. You are worth so much more x

Yes, we were invested. Well done you. He's shown himself up.

”The trash took itself out”

I think that’s him expecting you to beg, plead and chase, the grasping, greedy, grifting, benefit scrounging, deadbeat, piss-head dad - to come back.

Keep your dignity with silence and distance.

Block and delete his number.

I'm 'Wow' at his response. What a disgusting human being, with not a shred of decency. He really does not care that he completely took the piss out of you.

I hate the idea of this big fat wine guzzler taking food out of your children’s mouths.
You don’t mince your words, I’d keep at him til he transfer you the drink money back and then he can say ‘bye’ the cheeky twat!

Don't be sexist

@AliceR1 oh i’d missed the well bye then comment.

fuck me. What a disgrace of a man.

I’m invested & yes what an awful man. We really do live & learn. You had a lucky escape it was ‘only’ a few hundred. It could have been much much worse. I hope karma gets him & you too but in a positive way for you.

Very rude and grabby - don’t bother waiting for your birthday.

Get rid now and tell him why - greedy chancer and a rightward.

Totally inexcusable, I would be beyond fuming.

Very ungentlemanly behaviour, if he didn't offer to pay for his wine. You deserve better.

I'm currently attempting to pick my jaw up off the floor!! 😮 He was clearly punching above his weight, which was quite considerable!! 😬

Greedy fat bastard.

Don't be shy about telling the truth if mutual friends notice you've split up, let them know what a piece of work he is.

I’m a 100% karma believer, and way too selfless to ever put myself first. So here’s my theory, and one that keeps me sane - this spineless waste of space just turned 56. His kid is 8. The way he’s going, massively overweight, 2-bottles-of-wine a day binging alcoholic is going, there’s no chance in hell he’ll live another 10 years and there it’d be, my responsibility at my expense, expected because that’s what I do, bail people out irrespective of any inconvenience I may need to absorb. I don’t wish anyone any harm, but on the balance of probabilities, I may not be far off.

Getting it out there, no worries.