wanting another baby

[hayley88]

iv got a son whos now one and i want to try for another baby. my partner says he does not want to at this moment in time but the reason is because of his mum and dad. Hes afraid that they will be to upset and disapointed in him. I have told him several time thats we are our own family now no-one elses opinion matters if we are happy then they should be. I say to him would u be happy if i got pregnant and he says yeah so i say well why cant we try......its really getting to me hes to concerned what other people think but all im concerned about is me and my family (my partner and child). i get lectured everytime i go to his house by his 15 year old brother sayin you cannot have another baby do you want to struggle all your life..... i dont struggle i cope very well and all i want in life is my family im sorry for blabbing on im just sick of everyone ruling our lifes and stopping us doing what we want to do im life.

does anyone actually no if anyones renting houses or flats in manchester x

i got to go taking baby out for lunch and too see nana thanks for your opinions much appreciated sorry if i seem nasty its time of the month so stressed and bit upset xxxx

Hayley2 bed flats Manchester
On top of the £550 (must move up north, one bedroom here £1000 pcm) you pay council tax £100pcm, tv £13 pcm, gas/elec £50 pcm, food + nappies £300 pcm, not to mention running a car, getting a bus, clothes etc. Your £1300 won't go far.
Then there's the whole thing about giving your child/ren the best start....

Taking the baby out for lunch is not saving for a house now is it????
[puts kettle on knowing why this country is like it is and wondering if it will ever change???]

I dont fink £4 will put a hole in my pocket hehe xx

To see change on teenage pregnancy & excessive reliance on taxpayers money, you need to change the system so that not every 15 year old with a bun in the oven can get accommodation and allowance on benefits.

I am amazed at the welfare state that is the UK. No wonder youngsters think "I'll just have myself a couple of babies because that's what I am made for (!?!) and it will all work out".

Cote - From next April, people can get their Child Benefit BEFORE a baby is born. That makes me very sceptical.....

We have a very high teen pregnancy rate here - 5 girls from year 9 (age 13/14) in my sisters school left to have baby's last year.

(BTW i was a teenage parent, but was different in my eyes - married, own home, degree etc)

Sounds like you've had it easy if you ask me, if I were living at home with a baby I would be made to do evening work and save every penny until I moved out. Seems like to take your mother's generosity for granted and like you have a little growing up to do.
Cote, I'm with you there.... and not as I do think some children are badly brought up and have no clue about what makes for a happy life, however maybe no flats no babies????

Right your taking this to far. I got pregnant it wasnt planned wouldnt change my son for the world....I dont just think oh i will have a couple of babies coz thats what im made for or ill have a couple of babies so i can live of benefits...You are a very nasty vindictive person and some of the things that come out of your mouth are disgusting you should be ashamed of your self your a snob that thinks council houses are dumps and young mums are not good mums well you no what iv had enuf of sitting here taking shit off people i dont no ganging up on me tellin me im not good at what i do well you no what i cudnt give a monkeys arse what you think!

What has happened to my keyboard? arrrrrrghhhhh.

hayley, you have already said you don't have your own home and want two children.
Council houses are not something people should want, it's something some people need. Just stand on your own two feet.

God help your children being brought up by you lot you are all very judgementive and no child should be brought up in that environment....i bring my child up in a very loving environment and im proud of the way im bringing my child up and i can assure you hes wont be like you low minded people when hes grows up!

haha very sarky and very bitchy how grown up off you.... lets hope your children DONT grow up like you coz god help them if they did they would have a life of misery

There is a strong positive correlation between state benefits and teenage motherhood in various countries. Quite understandably.

I am in favor of the social state as a safety net. Anybody can need a helping hand at one point in their life or another. However, this is very different than youngsters thinking the world owes them a house and money to raise their numerous offspring.

i have got an education and so has my partner so my child will grow up to do the same as his parents did. we both have careers and both want the best for our children.

But no-one is being rude, you have to remember we are on the other side of the fence to you.

We know what it's like - DH's working all hours, several children (some who may have issues themselves - mine's dyspraxic), jobs ourselves (for some, not all)and paying alot of tax.

judgementive

I'm sorry, but lol. You so didn't get English A-level.

Does anyone know what 'sarky' means?

Google doesn't have a definition for it.

Is it something like 'hemeridge' [sic]?

F**K all of you

She could spell that!

'Sarky' means sarcastic. Possibly.
Is there really any need to be so patronising? Hayley posted seeking advice - why not give it and help her out rather than belittle her?