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DatingThread 55 - Spring has Sprung!

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Nosdacariad · 24/02/2026 07:23

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating -Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy
Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

OP posts:
PinkNeonSign · 27/03/2026 22:57

Yeah, thanks @rubberduck68 . All was well, I did say something in passing about being a bit unsure about whether he’d wanted me there. He acknowledged he’d not reconfirmed and said he would in future. Can’t ask any more than that now can I?!

rubberduck68 · 28/03/2026 00:11

SortingItOut · 27/03/2026 19:24

I haven't been on her for ages but just wanted to.post about faking it. @rubberduck68

Orgasms for women are all.in our head so if we get inside our heads there's no hope.

I think you should accept what led you to feel you had to fake it and then move on. Please don't beat yourself up about it.

Can you decide what to say if it happens again?

This often happens to me, either with a new partner who doesn't know what I like or when I'm inside my head.
With new partners I usually tell them that I dont orgasm easily so not to expect it but I'll definitely make noises so they know I'm enjoying myself.
If its in my head like the other morning I just said that I wasnt in the head space and my brain had started thinking about the day and what I had on, we laughed about it, he carried on and I got a rude book out and read some of that which got my head back in the right heads pace!

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I think I am going to have to say that to him, and you worded it just right, that it doesn't happen easily so not to expect it, but also to reassure that it's not him - because he really does make the effort!

rubberduck68 · 28/03/2026 00:12

PinkNeonSign · 27/03/2026 22:57

Yeah, thanks @rubberduck68 . All was well, I did say something in passing about being a bit unsure about whether he’d wanted me there. He acknowledged he’d not reconfirmed and said he would in future. Can’t ask any more than that now can I?!

You really can't. Excited to see where this goes...

SortingItOut · 28/03/2026 04:09

rubberduck68 · 28/03/2026 00:11

I think I am going to have to say that to him, and you worded it just right, that it doesn't happen easily so not to expect it, but also to reassure that it's not him - because he really does make the effort!

I think some men get fixated on the big O when in fact the journey along the way can be as fun and we don't always need to reach the destination of the big O.

Communication is important although it can be so hard at times especially around sex in a new relationship.

SortingItOut · 28/03/2026 04:16

Just a quick reminder that Thread 56 is already open and some people have moved across so there are 2 threads running which is why this one has slowed down.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5508497-dating-thread-56-love-is-in-the-air?page=1

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