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DH threw toy at me & it hit our baby

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Mayday85 · 16/01/2026 21:57

Title says it all. I’m in shock. My cozy, safe family has collapsed.

I blame myself partly, or maybe fully. I don’t know. We’ve been struggling with our baby at night. He barely sleeps and will cry loudly, waking our 2 year old. He’s got reflux poor thing. We have to rock him vigorously to calm him, for most of the night. Tonight he was screaming and I snapped at something DH said. I told him to F off twice. He threw one of those plastic eggs at me but it hit our baby on the head.

My worlds collapsed. He’s an amazing dad and everything he does is for our family. But I can’t be with him anymore can I?

We aren’t usually argumentative. We don’t row much and don’t swear at each other. I know we both sound awful reading this back, but we’re good people. Calm and happy parents.

I live away from friends and family. I can’t talk to anyone about this. What do I do? Please be kind. I’m not usually someone who would swear like that. I’m ill and tired and overwhelmed.

OP posts:
Lavender14 · 19/01/2026 00:13

Mayday85 · 17/01/2026 12:43

Some really lovely responses. Thank you. I wasn’t expecting so much kindness and am so grateful.

We’ve chatted this morning. He’s still incredibly remorseful and said he wasn’t wanting to hurt me, he was tidying at the time and threw it not with intent to hurt me. I believe this. I am also incredibly remorseful. Today we’re both sad but will move on from it.

Plan going forward is both of us going to my parents house, which is large enough for us all and they can support and we can get sleep.

Those sharing their experiences of their babies, I’m reading them all and will take on board the advice. I’ve suspected allergies and tongue tie, but been dismissed. I need to push harder for a resolution, but also accept there might not be one!

We’ll ride it out and learn from this. We’ve both crossed a line and don’t want to do it ever again. Like I said before, we’re both very calm people normally and don’t shout or swear at each other. We will learn from this. Thank you everyone again

Just to say op, I found them very reluctant to cut ds tongue tie and I ended up paying and getting it done privately which made the world of difference. It was about £120 at the local dentist, we were in and out in 5 minutes and ds didn't so much as flinch and I wished I'd just gone ahead and got it done sooner even to rule it out.

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