Head turned

[BeMauveOrca]

I have a need for a female perspective on a situation I find myself in.

for context, I have been with DW for 20 years, but over the past couple of years it has been purely platonic.
here’s what’s started to do my head in. A mum at one of my son’s sports clubs has taken a beeline to me. It started with a friendly smile and hello, but has progressed to her insisting on walking back to the car park with me and our respective children in tow. This happened again yesterday and I couldn’t get her out of my head last night. Am I reading too much into this?

Yes.

Yeah. Are you planning to fix your marriage, or divorce?

I hadn’t been considering either option. It was more why is this lady wanting to talk to me and not other parents

I assume you’ve dropped the fact that you’re married / have a wife into your conversations?

You’re probably reading too much into it if so. Maybe you’re just more interesting / easy to talk to than the others!

A woman being friendly doesn't mean she wants to fuck you, jesus christ.

Do the children get on well?
If they do she is probably trying to facilitate a growing friendship rather than finding you irresistible.

I speak to the parents of all my children’s friends. There is a single one of them that I want to fuck.

I always had great conversations with the dads at the school gates (some of the mums were really cliquey) so now I’m wondering how many of them took that to mean I fancied them and wanted a fuck😳 (happily married, just like nice conversation regardless of gender)

“progressed”

Get over yourself. If this is all it takes to 'turn your head' you must be in a permanent spin 🙄

A woman who wants to walk with a man she knows as she heads to a carpark in the dark with her DC does not necessarily want to fuck him, she may just value hers and her children’s safety 🤷‍♀️

Is it simply because you’re not getting any sex that your head has been turned so easily?

She may well not be interested but OP is.
OP read The Script. You are starting yourself down the slope towards ending your marriage. You say your marriage is 'purely platonic'. Reading between the lines, you are not happy about this and are starting to notice any sort of female attention, whether she is 'interested' or just being friendly. Think very carefully about whether this is a path you want to take, whether with this woman or another. Men are notorious for monkey branching straight from one relationship into another and this reads as if you are looking for the next branch. If this is not the case, turn your attention back to your wife and what is missing there that made you hyperfocus on someone else showing you what may or may not have been attention.

Maybe if you gave us a bit more about your marriage, without it being purely about how to get laid (becausr 95% of the time new male posters here are really asking about how to get more sex), we could better advise you.

Yup, your wife doesn't understand you so you should fuck the soccer mum who is gagging for it.

So the life changing decision of whether to fix your marriage or divorce hadn't even entered your head, but you're spending hours musing on why this woman wants to have sex with talk to you and not other parents? Ok then.

So many of my male acquaintances have misconstrued my friendship as being interested in them romantically.
Its actually tiresome.

👀

The username makes it even funnier

First and foremost, you are probably just getting an insight into how women feel walking around dark and secluded areas on their own. For most women, i think, when we are moving around secluded places, particularly if it’s dark and late, we are generally scanning for potential threats to our safety.

Your post shows that men just aren’t thinking in these terms and have quite a different experience in these circumstances. I recall reading about a woman who had to enlighten her husband as to why she didn’t want to take a shortcut across a local park when returning from the tube late at night.

So this is very probably why she was keen to walk to the car park with you. She felt safer. It was not about her wanting to get romantic with you. It’s a bit unfortunate, really, that you interpreted it that way.

It can be difficult if your marriage has become platonic. There is nothing in your posts which tells us why this might be the case. However, if you wanted to discuss that further, posters here might be able to give you some advice and insights from a female perspective.

I know OP asked for a female perspective, just want to add my two cents, as I am a married guy, almost 40, have two kids.. And yet I am friends with a good few women. One of my best friends (F) I have known since we were 13, others I met in university or later on in different jobs, or friends/childhood friends of my wife. All these women are good friends. And in the beginning, when I got to know them, they were friendly with me - but I didn't immediately assume they wanted to get intimate with me. It's fine if the opposite sex is friendly to you OP, no need to read too much into it.

On another note, I almost feel like you are looking for some form of encouragement, looking at the words you used - platonic with your own wife, etc. Maybe would be worth working on that - if that is what you would wish to do? If not, sure, that's a way to go, too.

This.

I’d probably think she just likes to have a friend at these classes or wants the kids to be friends to be honest.

This women is probably just passing the time of day while chatting to another parent. She will put more thought into what’s for dinner that night or what she is going to watch TV than you.

Sort your own life out.

The children are not friends and hardly speak.

im questioning why it is me she has cottoned onto

Ask your wife.

But you’re here for advice because you ‘can’t get her out your head’ sp obviously you’re planning something dependent on what you’re told? 🤷🏻‍♀️