Head turned

[BeMauveOrca]

I have a need for a female perspective on a situation I find myself in.

for context, I have been with DW for 20 years, but over the past couple of years it has been purely platonic.
here’s what’s started to do my head in. A mum at one of my son’s sports clubs has taken a beeline to me. It started with a friendly smile and hello, but has progressed to her insisting on walking back to the car park with me and our respective children in tow. This happened again yesterday and I couldn’t get her out of my head last night. Am I reading too much into this?

Posters ticking this fellow off, mocking him and using sexual language may be giving him exactly what he actually came here for...

I’m sure we don’t know why she wants to talk to you!

There’s a few Dads I talk to at swimming and another one at football and another at Karate. Why do I speak to them? They are slightly more bearable than the Mothers. That’s it.

She’s walked to the car with you??? You know that doesn’t mean she wants to shag you don’t you? Have you thought that her car could be in the same direction as yours?

Come back to us when she’s actually said something remotely close to flirting or suggestive.

Wow, is this really what goes through a man’s head? Thanks for letting us know.

Yes.

God it’s tiresome how the phrase “I need a female perspective” inevitably turns out to mean “How do I convince a particular woman to give me sex?”

‘has taken a beeline to me’
’why is it me she has cottoned onto’
These sentences need to be analysed on Pedants corner please 😂

@BeMauveOrca, per your recent comments, you used to be monogamous but sex with your Wife is now ‘boring’ and you have returned to your
pre-marriage MO of one-night stands.

You clearly have a crush on this woman and are hoping for more. We don’t know if she is interested or merely being friendly. Hopefully she is a person of integrity who respects your marital status and the children involved. You haven’t mentioned if she too is married/partnered.

My heart goes out to your Wife. Does she know that you have opened the marriage? She likely has no idea that you are a cheat who is on a forum
(1) degrading her intimacy with you and (2) asking if we think a friendly sports mum is infatuated with you.

Thisssss

Honestly can’t help but follow this thread and think “this is why so many women have no time at all for men”

I'd focus on why your relationship is platonic, try and fix that rather than fantasising about mum's in the playground.

I think he just wants validation this woman has the hots for him ,mind you thats if she even exists as opposed have said with the sexual content within the thread.

Pp not opposed

Does anyone have a link to the other thread as I couldn’t find it when I searched using the search function…. Or has it been taken down?

Go advanced search and use his username.

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It's the first result if you do an Advanced Search on the username.

My life experience and my time on mumsnet has taught me that for the majority - heterosexual long term marriage is one of the the most disappointing, soul destroying experiences of modern life. Be brave - leave your spouse with a shred of respect before you cast it all to a pile of fetid shit.

I did and literally only this thread came up, which is why I wanted someone to share it to see if it really is the same poster.

Honestly, o did advanced username search and one thread came up - this one. Which is why I was also asking if it’s been deleted. If anyone had it saved they would see the deletion message but I’m assuming it wouldn’t come up in searches. I did the search username by title and op only.

Grim

She thought that you were a decent nice safe bloke she could be friendly with and talk to during the kids club, rather than the sleazy perv that you are. How wrong she was.
Stop assuming that any woman who is friendly and trying to talk to you wants to shag you, news flash she doesn't.
If you're unhappy in your marriage divorce your wife and set her free, if not just stop being a perv as she deserves better and will divorce you.

Wow OP what a piece of work you are. Do the right thing and divorce the poor woman you are married to. Give her the grace and dignity she deserves. Come clean and confess what you have been up to, then go on your way and continue to have your one night stands, just because your poor wife gives you "boring" sex.

Fix your marriage or ask for a divorce. Sort that out before you start getting all teenagery and creepy.
Does that girl fancy me? Ffs, grow up!

Why grim?

She probably does? Why does she?

She would most likely speak to a woman or elderly man in exactly the same way if she didn’t really know them and was being polite and friendly. That’s the crux isn’t it, being friendly. If you’re not friendly then you’re a standoffish bitch, but now we have two men on here voicing their assumption that if a woman chooses to talk to a man of a similar age in a casual manner, she is obviously sexually attracted to them.

I think this shines more of a light on what these men are thinking when they do the same to women. Why bother wasting precious energy conversing with a bloody woman unless there’s a remote chance she’d shag you?

Depressing and grim. Is that what happens? You men only bother speaking to women you want to get your leg over? Or is it the old one rule for the women and another for us blokes thing? Women are renowned for being so obsessed with sex that’s all they’re capable of thinking about, and so clearly the only motivator behind engaging a man in pleasantries….. or is that the other way around? 🤔