Dating thread 54-New year new irons?

[bluedabadeedabadoo]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating -Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

@bluedabadeedabadoo oh wow, you’re beating me to it! Do report back.

@TwistedWonderthey do seem to be gradually adding more locations and I think it will grow due to people’s fatigue with the usual apps.

Worry less about where the date location is and more about where the person lives which you can see on the profile. As a one off 20 miles would be ok for me but would only do that if they lived within an easy travelling distance.

Do report back. I actually matched with someone on there in summer bit ended up moving out of area a week later so never set up a date. Nonetheless, I am curious if it's a success for you.

It doesn’t look like we have anything in common but what’s the harm in giving it a go lol

I’ve been chatting someone tonight who’s been single for 3 weeks! They broke up from an 11 year marriage 3 weeks ago! I’ve been dating Mr P longer than he has been single! I need to say sorry and no thanks but I feel bad for him which isn’t good in itself 🤦🏻‍♀️

Don't feel bad. You are doing him (and yourself!) a favour.

So a more than 50% chance he'll get back with the Mrs or didn't break up in the first place or Ross and Rachelled it.

Well yer and if it’s true what he’s saying, she left him as she wanted to ‘find herself’ so he hasn’t chosen this path at all making it low likely they will get back together given the chance.

Hello!

Just found the new thread, no updates from me! Been on a few bad dates and struggling to stay motivated. The apps are dire!

I would love to meet someone out in the wild but I won't date at work and there's a disappointing lack of eligible men throwing themselves at me on my dog walks so I'm persisting with the online dating swamp for now!

@BoxOfCats Mr Nomad is driving me up the wall and I don't even know the guy! How on earth can you say you don't want a relationship then plan a long haul holiday 6 months in advance?? It's like he wants all the separate parts of a relationship but just doesn't want the label. It's a headfuck. You've more patience than me!

I had one like this and someone described it as a man wanting ‘the girlfriend experience’ without any of the actual day to day relationship effort.

Hahaha yes that’s right, it’s literally like we are in a relationship without the label.

He seems very excited I’m flying to visit him tomorrow. Messaged me earlier today saying ”one more sleep to go!” and called me from the supermarket asking me what kind of snacks I like to eat 😂 He also told me to pack a naice outfit for the place he’s taking me for lunch on Friday. Definitely not FWB territory at all.

I do wonder if he has it is his head that as soon as it’s a “relationship“ suddenly there will be pressure and expectations. But who knows.

Yes I see what you mean. The weird thing is though, he makes a tonne of effort! More than some of my previous long term partners. It’s so strange.

Oh wow! 3 weeks is nothing. You did the right thing though!

Me too!!

Mr Narnia a disparu after I mentioned looking after a rellie taken suddenly into hosp.

Is this taking " no drama" to a whole new level?!

Supposed to be meeting Boat Man again today... Still not cancelled. What sorcery is this?

Nosdacariad That's a shame, he seemed promising!
I'm always nervous when they write 'No drama' as like you say, I don't think that I have any drama in my life but things pop up that are sometimes drama-like briefly

I'm still not dating so just following along on here.

I did stand & swoon when this man in Aldi yesterday, put his arm round (assuming) his mum's back & swiftly moved her away from an incoming trolly that she hadn't seen (trolly was being pushed by some kids rather quickly!) then he rubbed her arm... Simple gesture but I did stand there & sigh & thought 'That's the kind of man I want'. High standards, me

@Nosdacariad it’s MrNarnia’s loss. On to the next x

@CleanShirt go you!

@PinkNeonSign and @NervesOfCotton I block anyone who says "no drama". It translates as "you may not have emotions or troubles in your life".

I read ‘no drama’ as I’ll do as I please and if you don’t like don’t you dare say anything

Agree. I always see it as ‘don’t even think about calling me out on my complete twattery otherwise you’ll join the long list of crazy exes I tell my next unwitting victim about’

Spot on

Oh, I just give them a miss altogether. "No drama" on their profile basically translates as "I create all the drama in my relationships and I have no maturity to hold space for you to express your emotions". No need to be nervous. It's actually a great way to filter out the immature arses.

I’ve got a good one, handsome match from the other day, we’ll call him MrSilverFox. We tried to arrange a time to meet and realised between work and other commitments it won’t be til the week after next. He’s stressed he’s still keen to meet and we’ll chat in the meantime. He’s text this afternoon asking how my day has been etc then proceeded to tell me he’s ‘actually got a date tonight, just casual’ I realise the reality is a lot of people are dating/chatting to others but I’m not sure I’d make a point of texting someone to tell them. Definitely need a break x