My partner is angry because I wont tell him my Bodycount

[northern2025]

He has repeatedly asked me and I haven’t answered him but now he has sat me down and said think carefully exactly what you say and wanted me to talk about my sec life since I was a teen, when I am mid forties now
I have been single for quite a bit of this time and had several short term relationships
he is making me feel anxious and isn’t speaking to me now as thinks I can’t be trusted

Tell him this is none of his business. Massive red flag.

Leave. Immediately. Things will get worse.

Major red flags. 🚩

"Think carefully" ?!

Chuck this one back, op, he's a dick

He sounds like a right nut job hun…..

I dnt see the problem. My husband knows everything about my past and I know woth him. Even things that made him uncomfortable. I wld find it strange if he wasnt willing to tell me

Sounds like a controlling nutter. Swerve!

So many red flags. I hate 'body count'. It's just such a shit way to talk about other people.

No, he’s a fucking loon.
He can fuck off. The only acceptable number to him is zero.

Get rid of him. ‘Think carefully’?? Who the fuck dies he think he is??

Tell him 3 and be done with it

And this. He can fuck all the way off.

Sat you down?

Seriously, tell him to stfu about it, or the door is over there. This one doesn't have legs.

Dump him. Who the fuck does he think he is?!

Because he will judge me and I will have to explain each and every one

He doesn’t need to know, it’s not important. This is the Andrew Tate brigade, women need a low body count and men can have whatever one they want.

Anything you tell him will be held against you and bought up time and again!

this should be an ex partner after the way he’s spoken to you. Leave tonight if safe to do so. If not wait till morning and get out of there and lock on every platform

Agreed, I feel like it's a fairly reliable barometer to not trust anybody who even uses the phrase, let alone makes a big deal of it

its been going on for weeks he says he can’t ever trust me as I have never told him the truth

Ugh x 100000

He wants to know how many people you’ve shagged? Before you were together?
Not his business. He needs to think carefully about why on earth he thinks he has the right to to know.
And you need to think, very, very carefully, about why on earth you are entertaining his shite. You are mid forties? Me too and I honestly have no idea. I do know however that if some insecure dickhead started demanding a “body count” from me? He’d be getting nowhere near my body!

Exactly
whatever I say will he dissected and gone over and over, I genuinely cannot remember some things from 30 years ago

@SillyJilly2020 good user name tbh as that’s pathetic. If you want to discuss your previous sex life (though why you would is beyond me) that’s fine. But if you don’t, then no one should be in the slightest bit bothered and they certainly shouldn’t be arsey.

@northern2025 “I have thought very carefully about this answer…”
and then tell him to do one. Controlling prick is waving more red flags than a drunk matador!

Why would you stay for one more minute with such a complete arsehole?? Seriously.

Only insecure, immature, controlling people want this information. It is entirely irrelevant.

Well northern,
You've made it to your 40's, for what - to be judged? I don't think so. Fuck him off.