Page 36 | Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

LemonDrizzleKay · 10/12/2025 00:00

Livelovebehappy · 09/12/2025 23:56

Nope. My busy life is over for the day. Isn’t everyone’s life busy? I can’t be the only one working till 6 then cramming in house stuff before I go to bed…..

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This is my point… people have breaks through the day and post on here in between chores and work, on the train etc.

Justchilling07 · 10/12/2025 00:00

Livelovebehappy · 09/12/2025 23:49

To be fair it’s not only the OP who has a lot of time on their hands. There’s a good number on here who have pretty much matched the frequency of her posts. How do people find time to sit on MN hour after hour toing and froing? Don’t people work? Have children to sort out? Chores to do? I’m clearly doing something wrong….

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To be fair, many people work shifts, not 9-5 or they work from home and when they take a break, go onto MN😂or go through their emails.This thread has been quite strange, yes it is a bit of a waste of time, but there we go that’s social media for you.

LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 10/12/2025 00:02

Livelovebehappy · 09/12/2025 23:49

To be fair it’s not only the OP who has a lot of time on their hands. There’s a good number on here who have pretty much matched the frequency of her posts. How do people find time to sit on MN hour after hour toing and froing? Don’t people work? Have children to sort out? Chores to do? I’m clearly doing something wrong….

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Agree. But this thread has been hilarious. All the shouting blamers and scolders and tutters were told they could date Mr Baldy Bad-Teeth Ghoster and then, when he responded to her chiding poem by proposing a nice dinner, she told them they couldn't haven't have him anymore. And they all went mental with their condescending shrieking shit that REALLY made THEM - not her - look like lunatics, unhinged, deranged, needs a life etc.

Good on OP for standing her ground, and for making me laugh. Brava, Op.

Calliopespa · 10/12/2025 00:04

Livelovebehappy · 09/12/2025 23:49

To be fair it’s not only the OP who has a lot of time on their hands. There’s a good number on here who have pretty much matched the frequency of her posts. How do people find time to sit on MN hour after hour toing and froing? Don’t people work? Have children to sort out? Chores to do? I’m clearly doing something wrong….

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Exactly. And if you dip in and out because you are doing it as a break between tasks, so don't read every single post, someone jumps in with a furious RTFT - as if they are a teacher and it was a compulsory task like homework!

ohnotthisagain2020 · 10/12/2025 00:04

Justchilling07 · 10/12/2025 00:00

To be fair, many people work shifts, not 9-5 or they work from home and when they take a break, go onto MN😂or go through their emails.This thread has been quite strange, yes it is a bit of a waste of time, but there we go that’s social media for you.

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And I don't think anyone has written 200 replies (or anything like that) to the OP's 200 increasingly frantic responses, ducky duck, ma cherie, darling, to be fair.

Run away, baldy bullet headed bad-toothed man, run away as fast you can, would be my advice.

HughGrantsfurrysquirrel · 10/12/2025 00:06

pollyglot · 09/12/2025 23:57

Confined to my chair with health issues just now, and this wonderful thread is truly a tonic. Pure gold. Veritably breathtakingly preposterous. I haven't laughed so much for months. The puerile repartee of the OP simply cannot be the responses of a mature adult, unless s/he is doing it for a bet/for effect/for research of a new novel. Whatever is their motive, the repetitive "nah nah nah nah nah" theme has been simply mesmerising and strangely addictive. Cheers, Polly.

Probably the latter. There are far more inventive ways to research an idea for a character...

Justchilling07 · 10/12/2025 00:10

ohnotthisagain2020 · 10/12/2025 00:04

And I don't think anyone has written 200 replies (or anything like that) to the OP's 200 increasingly frantic responses, ducky duck, ma cherie, darling, to be fair.

Run away, baldy bullet headed bad-toothed man, run away as fast you can, would be my advice.

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😂

FullOfLemons · 10/12/2025 00:11

Another thread for the second date please OP. 🙏

Calliopespa · 10/12/2025 00:12

Justchilling07 · 09/12/2025 23:44

I think, people are just getting a bit fed up of click bait threads, threads that don’t make any sense.It’s become apparent, to me, that there are many threads that are just made up, some are just really nasty, like benefit bashing threads.It’s bit like ahh not another one! Obviously, l know l don’t have to read them😂 but it is a shame, because there are posters who really would like to help/advise, but can see through, peoples ‘fantasies’ lies!

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Perhaps there is a bit of that. I got told by a random poster my response to an op was "made up" to be unkind the other day, when in fact it was a fairly banal relaying of something that was relevant to the very question asked. I just thought it's like dealing with people whose intellects are short-circuiting but their temper is stuck in the on position.

The other thing I am noticing is a lot of reverse psychology ops on AIBU eg: "Am I being unreasonable to plague my DIL with poorly chosen gifts that I know she will hate?" Leading question??

Justchilling07 · 10/12/2025 00:15

@Calliopespayes definitely agree.

Livelovebehappy · 10/12/2025 00:20

Calliopespa · 10/12/2025 00:04

Exactly. And if you dip in and out because you are doing it as a break between tasks, so don't read every single post, someone jumps in with a furious RTFT - as if they are a teacher and it was a compulsory task like homework!

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And then you get the ones, just a couple of posts back, who say ‘no, don’t text him….’ As if they’re responding to the very first post and just completely ignoring the 36 pages since then …… I mean, I know we don’t have to read the entire thread, but at least dip in to the OPs updates

ohnotthisagain2020 · 10/12/2025 00:24

Livelovebehappy · 10/12/2025 00:20

And then you get the ones, just a couple of posts back, who say ‘no, don’t text him….’ As if they’re responding to the very first post and just completely ignoring the 36 pages since then …… I mean, I know we don’t have to read the entire thread, but at least dip in to the OPs updates

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Generally, not reading the OPs updates is problematic, but in this case nothing of importance would be missed beyond the OP pretending he's now keen, and honestly 8 pages of ducky, ma chere, darling and "I'm a famous author doncha know" isn't really adding much that's necessary.

Daygloboo · 10/12/2025 00:39

WildflowerGardens · 09/12/2025 10:12

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

Give it a bit longer. Maybe theres a reason. Although a bear hug sounds a bit unromantic.

Mothership4two · 10/12/2025 00:49

Justchilling07 · 09/12/2025 18:55

It’s all just a bit weird, the way op is talking to people
I’m doubtful, this is actually a women.

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Do you not think it's might be more than one person? Sometimes talks like an elderly person and at other times is positively teenage - it just doesn't sound genuine (to me). The bragging also sounds off. In fact the whole scenario doesn't ring true. Sorry to the OP if this isn't the case. Some funny comments from posters though.

Daygloboo · 10/12/2025 00:53

WildflowerGardens · 09/12/2025 10:12

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

You know, sometimes people ghost because they feel the other person was out of their league. He might just have found you TOO attractive if you were really chatty and bubbly and interesting. You said it went really well after all. Maybe he couldnt keep up. Ghosting doesnt always mean they didnt lkke you.

SnowFrogJelly · 10/12/2025 01:01

Goodness this thread has moved on since I last looked.. so there’s a second date on the cards

Chickensky · 10/12/2025 01:03

Been watching this thread and I think it's funny so here goes in your author style another poem:

I went on a first date and seemed to be great

A bear hug was given and nothing seemed hidden

Then my text was ignored, till I inferred he's a cunt

He has happily answered and "let's take one more punt"

I said to you all date him, and I take it back.

He's bald, and PHD holder and that lights my stack!

I hope he's a winner and please wish me luck,

Maybe a marriage for this ducky duck.

@WildflowerGardens I hope you find humour in this.

Mothership4two · 10/12/2025 01:19

I agree @Daygloboo but it was it really ghosting though? He just took 2 days to reach out. I've always taken 'ghosting' to be something someone does when they have been in some form of a relationship - so (to me) it doesn't really apply after meeting once.

Back in the Dark Ages when I was dating, people didn't get back in touch unless they wanted to see you again - maybe things are different now and I was a lot younger then than OP claims to be, so had a different (teenage) mindset

Justchilling07 · 10/12/2025 01:22

Mothership4two · 10/12/2025 00:49

Do you not think it's might be more than one person? Sometimes talks like an elderly person and at other times is positively teenage - it just doesn't sound genuine (to me). The bragging also sounds off. In fact the whole scenario doesn't ring true. Sorry to the OP if this isn't the case. Some funny comments from posters though.

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Yes, that’s what’s so, l don’t know what the word is, different, the tone of the thread.l think posters have been dipping in and out of the thread, l can’t see how many, would have read every comment, there’s so many.
Definitely, there really has been lots of funny comments, my ducky😂

Stucknstoopit · 10/12/2025 01:33

Horrorscope · 09/12/2025 22:47

After 11 hours of posting today, alone, I’m gonna suggest OP’s main ‘authoring’ is on Mumsnet.

What a weird post. I feel sorry for that poor bloke and what might, potentially, be in store.

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A whole load of word salad: for starters main and pudding.
Accompanied by a glass of the finest house oneupmanship and a hot cup of complete and utter fantasy at our simply fabulous duck duck ducky restaurant don’t you know dearie.

for those diners with terrible teeth but who still love a good old gastric bamboozling, we can chuck all this into a blender and have it mercilessly mushed , metamorphosed into something empty headed love island viewers can only dream of from afar

Twirlyhockey · 10/12/2025 01:45

SemperIdem · 09/12/2025 21:38

You mention being an author, is this thread you mining for material? It cannot be genuine.

OP is writing as a character, I think. But it's a thinner veil than she thinks it is.

For OP, there'll be no bridal wreath
So she came on this thread just to seethe
Other posters, she'd ban
As their limericks don't scan
Which is WORSE than bald heads and bad teeth.

wandawaves · 10/12/2025 02:00

Were you on your phone on MN for this whole date OP? (The one you were apparently on a train travelling to earlier?).
Dare I ask... how was the date? Did he have good teeth? And hair?

Stucknstoopit · 10/12/2025 02:04

Twirlyhockey · 10/12/2025 01:45

OP is writing as a character, I think. But it's a thinner veil than she thinks it is.

For OP, there'll be no bridal wreath
So she came on this thread just to seethe
Other posters, she'd ban
As their limericks don't scan
Which is WORSE than bald heads and bad teeth.

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Is the character Liz Jones? Younger but still snippy, with the same stilted , awkward and confused vocabulary and writing style of la jones?

DadBodAlready · 10/12/2025 02:28

You have absolutely no idea what has happened. Yes he may have ghosted you, but it could be something more serious. You just don't know.
Wait until you do, or don't.

Ladybyrd · 10/12/2025 02:31

The best response is no response. At least he didn’t waste too much of your time.

Next.

I would set up lots of dates with lots of guys - focus on meeting people rather than getting snagged on backs and forths with strangers. As soon as I employed that tactic, I met someone pretty quickly.