Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

I write novels too, but it doesn’t make my time any more valuable than that of people who do something else for a living! You chose to go on a date in the middle of an edit — that’s on you. And surely the bear hug suggested he wasn’t attracted to you?

I don’t have any, ducky duck.

This thread is becoming pretty feral.

Why are people so snappy and derisory on here lately?

I'm noticing it on loads of threads.

As he asked me out this weekend today by text I should think he is attracted, ma chere

Nasty little trolls get reported. Get a life.

Some people are just nasty. I’m used to it, but I report all heinous comments that are verging on hate crimes

Absolute gold of a thread! thank you!

Yep, a good laugh, especially the pages and pages of OP replies 😇

Nerve hitting intensifies ducky duck ma chere sweetie darling😅😆😋😂

As ever on MN, so thankful I'm not a heterosexual man looking for sex or love.

Don’t message anything not even a word

I’d say you were the weird one

I think, people are just getting a bit fed up of click bait threads, threads that don’t make any sense.It’s become apparent, to me, that there are many threads that are just made up, some are just really nasty, like benefit bashing threads.It’s bit like ahh not another one! Obviously, l know l don’t have to read them😂 but it is a shame, because there are posters who really would like to help/advise, but can see through, peoples ‘fantasies’ lies!

Does it make you feel better. People like you don’t belong on this app

Where are you and baldy shit-teeth going for your second date ducky?

@WildflowerGardens this is actually really referring to original posters.You haven’t exactly been approachable, have you! What’s with the ducky comments, it’s a bit strange op.

To be fair it’s not only the OP who has a lot of time on their hands. There’s a good number on here who have pretty much matched the frequency of her posts. How do people find time to sit on MN hour after hour toing and froing? Don’t people work? Have children to sort out? Chores to do? I’m clearly doing something wrong….

😂👏🤌

You know how you have just torn yourself away from your busy life to write this post?…,

I quickly checked the number of responses per page and multiplied that by 7. I then noticed she's on page 8 😅

There are people who have written nearly 200 responses to the OP? That would be pretty astonishing, yes.

(Edited, 200 not 300, typo)

Nope. My busy life is over for the day. Isn’t everyone’s life busy? I can’t be the only one working till 6 then cramming in house stuff before I go to bed…..

So roughly translated, your ego has taken a battering. You're feeling indignant that this guy - (who you now appear to have upgraded to hideous loser ) has rejected your highly desirable self.

I think a bit of introspection is needed here. Who's to say he didn't find you physically attractive..... but is your attitude desirable?! You seem to have turned on him pretty quickly. Sometimes you just get that feeling about someone......

Confined to my chair with health issues just now, and this wonderful thread is truly a tonic. Pure gold. Veritably breathtakingly preposterous. I haven't laughed so much for months. The puerile repartee of the OP simply cannot be the responses of a mature adult, unless s/he is doing it for a bet/for effect/for research of a new novel. Whatever is their motive, the repetitive "nah nah nah nah nah" theme has been simply mesmerising and strangely addictive. Cheers, Polly.

Are you on glue?!
I've got a lovely boyfriend of my own thanks.
And he has hair.....

Odd behaviour from him, ti the point that I suspect maybes there’s a reasonable explanation.

definitely do not text some arsey reply. Leave it a week and then just call and ask how he’s doing?