World Cup is on my birthday

[rainsbows]

One of England’s group games is on my birthday. H has already added it to the calendar. I hate football with a passion and he knows this. Aibu to want him to celebrate my birthday with me rather than be glued to the tv??

Honestly I'm always a bit 🙄 at adults who are so precious about not significant birthdays.
Celebrate the weekend before or after . Does it really really matter if it's not the exact day when your husband would really like to do watch it .?

i still think it’s no big deal to celebrate whenever suits everyone but am curious about the backstory here too. What did you do for him on his birthday? How do you usually celebrate and what would you be wanting to do at 9pm on a work night? As you said you are a teacher so probably can’t exactly have a big night out anyway.

My husband and I love and respect each other but we also have work and kids and other parts of our lives to juggle. So sometimes we celebrate things slightly earlier or later. I am sure you were aware that your husband is a football fan so I can’t see how this is surprising. If you didn’t want marry a football fan you had that option. People are super excited (I’m in Scotland and everyone is delirious. I don’t care about football but I’m starting to get into it just by being around it so much!) and it would be sad to ruin it because you wanted… whatever it was you wanted on your birthday.

It’s “beyond his control”? What a load of tosh. He’s an adult, who can make choices. I suppose the men who beat up their wives when their team loses also can’t help it?

It’s the World Cup! Celebrate another day.

YABU

Not wrong.

just different.

YABVU. Adults stamping their feet over a birthday is just a no. The world cup is every 4 years ffs.

You even said if you went for dinner earlier he'd be thinking about it so if went away or whatever he'd still be thinking about it. He can't win really can he?

I can’t imagine being so excited about my own birthday to care 😂 could understand more if it was precious first born first birthday or my wedding day. But even then a football match at 9pm 🤷‍♀️

Amusing thread from yesteryear here about a couple trying to ban the Champions League final at their wedding.

In the end the game was so dull that the bbc commentators even referenced mumsnet. “Maybe that mumsnet couple who didn’t want this shown at their wedding were on to something “.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3588812-champions-league-ban-at-wedding

My friend got married at 4pm the day England played Scotland in Euro 96 - which was a 3pm kick off!

The pub next to the church was rammed with blokes in suits including the groom and best man. Half the guests are missing from the wedding photos because they ran back in the pub soon as the vows had been said to catch the last 10 minutes of the game.

My friend wasn’t bothered at all - she just rolled her eyes and let them carry on,

Lots of MN think its unreasonable to celebrate a birthday if you're over 8. I disagree and think it is quite reasonable for adults to celebrate their birthday, every year!
However we're pretty relaxed that if its not on the exact day, we'll do something on the nearest convenient date. Last year we went out 2 days after my birthday because DD was home from uni that weekend. I have raced for my running club team on DH birthday, and also on our anniversary, and we just celebrated on a different day of the week.

Have you suggested he does that OP? He might think it’s a great idea 🫣

Wouldnt bother me. It's 90 minutes to to 2& half hours, allowing for stoppages/extra time. It's once every 4 years, he can make it up to you.

no, it doesn’t work like this. I’m not a big supporter but even for me it doesn’t work. I tried it a couple of times.
By the way you didn’t tell OP why game at 9 pm would affect your birthday celebration. How would you expect your evening go without a game?
Im asking because for me there is plenty of time to have dinner before 9pm, even to go out for dinner.

Thank goodness your birthday isn’t on Christmas Day, it doesn’t sound like you’d cope.

Celebrate on the weekend before or after, like lots of people do, even for big birthdays.

This is nowt to do with football

Wouldn’t you rather celebrate your birthday on a Friday or Saturday night?

Why not arrange something really nice on a day when there isn’t a game? Maybe a weekend before or after? This is really easily solved and you’ll have a better time if you don’t insist it has to be on the exact day.

Yes, you are being unreasonable. Celebrate your birthday the day before or after if you must celebrate it at all. You’re an adult. You can cope with your DH’s attention being on the football for an hour and a half on your birthday.

Do you even know what time the game is yet? Some of these games will be in the early hours of the morning.

chill.. you’ve got months to plan something you do want to do.

It isn't just football. It is the World Cup!You can celebrate your birthday the day before or after. I would never expect .y husband to miss watching such an important match for my birthday. If he did I can imagine he would be checking his phone every 5 mins to find out the score,so you wouldn't have a great time. Be magnanimous. Let him watch such an important match and you have a lovely birthday treat the day before or after. Honestly I bet the votes will show most women think you are being unreasonable.

I would imagine every man in England who is passionate about football will be glued to the TV for every game for 2weeks. This is a game England is playing and you expect him to give it up for your birthday treat!Why don't you celebrate your actual birthday with a friend and celebrate with your DH at the weekend?If England wins he will over your birthday celebration. If England loses,it will cheer him up.
I actualky can't believe you are seriously asking him to give up a an England match for your birthday. You think of it as just a game as do .any women,but it is your DH passion. Be kind!

Mate, get a fucking grip. Have him cook you a nice dinner and do the washing up. Then you go catch the sunset in the garden with a glass of something and a book.

Plus on the nights of matches the vibe absolutely everywhere will still be all about the football so if it’s not your thing you are better off relaxing at home.

Not if they loose 😂