World Cup is on my birthday

[rainsbows]

One of England’s group games is on my birthday. H has already added it to the calendar. I hate football with a passion and he knows this. Aibu to want him to celebrate my birthday with me rather than be glued to the tv??

I honestly think you've got enough notice of this to work round it, plan to see non football loving friends/family on the night and celebrate with him either the night or weekend before or after. I am not into football but appreciate the hype that goes with the World Cup and due to the timing of your birthday this may well happen again every 2 years with the World Cup or Euros.....I missed properly celebrating a fair few birthdays due to all day football tournaments miles away when my son was younger as its at the end if the season, my husband also has had to work a couple due to month end deadlines at work etc at very short notice. Unless you already had something planned or DH is normally really selfish I just think its one of those things and its great leverage to get an extra special gift/treat when you do celebrate.

So, your birthday is mid week? Shift the celebrations to the nearest weekend, and have a full day of it (minus what I expect will be a football match).

DHs birthday is tomorrow. We are doing presents, cake and dinner out today, as it fits in much better.

Just go out for dinner and be home by 9pm. Or if you want a later night, do it at the weekend instead. I’m really not understanding why you are trying to make this a you vs football scenario when it doesn’t need to be that way.

It's a shame that you haven't enabled voting as you would probably see a huge majority voting YBU and that might make you stop and think.

I have absolutely no interest in football but accept that it's very important to many people and if it mattered to my partner, I'd let him crack on.

It's a weekday birthday so you'll be working anyway and won't be able to make a day of it.

Just order your favourite takeaway as a treat then when the match comes on either watch it together or leave him to get on with it and go in another room to read or to watch something you would enjoy.

If you like to celebrate your birthday, then do something together at the weekend.

I couldn’t imagine picking a fight over this. You have 6 months notice to plan something else on your birthday with friends, and celebrate your birthday with DH a day earlier / at the weekend.

Oh I hate birthday princesses - my mother is still like this in her 70s, pathetic, nothing else can ever happen on that day. A few years ago something very bad happened to me on that day and she couldn’t receive her present and fuss for another 2 days. She sulked for about 6 months and will probably never forgive me. It is just a date in the calendar - celebrate on another day

Yep 😂

Oh God is the World Cup next year? Already? I feel like we just had all the drama of England losing out and then the endless handwringing and now here we are again.

I’m with you, OP, but we’re in a minority on this thread. Apparently football trumps everything and that is OK 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ok thanks everyone. I accept I’m the minority.

at least your are not supporting scotland!

These answers are batshit 🤣 it’s just a group game not the final 🙈

What's batshit? People suggesting that it's completely normal to celebrate their birthdays on a weekend rather than during the week?

The issue isn't the football it's the inflexible attitude that a birthday has to be celebrated on the day no matter what else is happening. Even small children understand the concept of celebrating on a weekend.

YABU. I cannot bear football and find it all very tedious and I wouldn’t even watch England in the World Cup final because I do not care.
But birthdays can still be celebrated around a 90 min game, and you can go out for dinner or whatever another night. I find people with an annoying obsession that their birthday must be celebrated on the actual day just as tedious as I find football tbh.

World Cup is always a big deal if you're a football fan. I'm not hugely into football, though do follow the women's game. I'd expect my husband to watch the football if it was on my birthday, to be honest, we'd probably just make an event of it, go watch it at a pub together, have a few drinks.

How late would you even want to be out for a meal if you have to be up early the next day for teaching 30 kids?! I’d be having my decaf tea and getting ready for bed by 9pm!

This. I’d let him get on with it and do something when football isn’t on (or if it’s an evening game get a takeaway and have a glass of wine)

You have months of notice that your DH has an important - to him - event happening for 2 hours that day. You can plan your celebrations avoiding that 2 hours - say at the weekend before or the weekend after, or the evening before or the evening after.

By effectively stamping your foot and saying 'But I want to celebrate in those 2 specific hours in 7 months time' is really unfair.

It sounds as though either

• you are quite demanding and think your DH should always put you first / put your wants above his own, or
• your DH is a selfish person who never puts you first, and you are using this one event to pour all of your built-up anger in to.

You’re acting like a 5yo. In fact no, you’re behaving worse than a 5yo because 5yos understand that of their birthdays happen midweek, the celebration with their friends happens at the weekend.

Grow up, fgs.

OP - Am I being unreasonable

everyone else - yes

OP - No I’m not.

Honestly what do you want from this thread? You asked a question, everyone disagrees, and instead of taking that on board you are still saying you’re right. Your mind is already made up.

To give @rainsbows her due she has accepted she's being unreasonable

Not really. She's said she accepts her viewpoint is in the minority, not that she now thinks her viewpoint is unreasonable. Read more like a doubling-down to me.

Fellow teacher here. You can definitely fit in a mid week meal out and be home by 9pm. Prioritise your work effectively so you can leave by 4pm that day.

Glad you've accepted YABU, you can't record a football match, the whole point is that it's live.

How is a birthday more important than a game.

You as his wife are more important obviously, but you don’t actually need anything other than a bit of childish fuss for your birthday.

Adulat birthdays and football games are equally unimportant in this world. You have a birthday every year and it can be celebrated on a different day. Grow up.

My husband once, shock horror, went to an Arsenal game on my birthday. Strangely, I wasn’t remotely bothered and we went for dinner afterwards.

Can you not do something the next day although it will be 2 hours out of your day do you need him to look at you all day on your birthday?