World Cup is on my birthday

[rainsbows]

One of England’s group games is on my birthday. H has already added it to the calendar. I hate football with a passion and he knows this. Aibu to want him to celebrate my birthday with me rather than be glued to the tv??

And the world cup will happen again, he could also try being adult and prioritizing his partner on her birthday.

I'm with you in the minority OP! A knock out game I might feel differently (I don't care about football, but I get it) but group stages...I'd want to celebrate my birthday on the actual day and my DH would get that!! If I could make plans with non football loving friends I would do that, but if no one was free there's no way DH would either make me watch the football or leave me just watching something else on my own on my birthday. Birthdays are our one little special day of the year even though MN says otherwise!!

Birthdays are very important to me and football is not. But if football is important to your husband then I think he should watch the match. It doesn’t matter that you think it’s just a GAME, it’s a game that needs to be watched at a particular time on a particular day. You can have an early dinner first, and/or plan a big celebration for the weekend.

Surely any decent person would be flexible so their partner can watch their country play football and also enjoy a special dinner/day out together to celebrate your birthday.

I'd divorce you if I had to put up with this princessy behaviour. Sorry for being so blunt, but that would be it, I'd be off!

FGS go to dinner the day before, the week before, the day after and blow off some steam with along with the birthday cake candles on the day, BEFORE the match starts. Sorted.

And furthermore, if he did forego the match for your birthday meal or whatever, neither of you would enjoy it. He'd be fuming, you'd be raging he's fuming, and he'd be checking his phone all night for the latest score. Be the adult and give a little.

Can I ask if you actually like and love your husband? Because if you do then surely you are excited for him to have this exciting (to him) happen next year. I’ve even got a miserable ex husband I barely like but I’m delighted for him that Scotland got through and he will have so much fun enjoying the matches. I think if I was due to get married I would be happy to move the day because I would enjoy the excitement about the matches

You don't have to miss out though. Plan something lush with your friends and loved ones and celebrate in a way that makes you fulfilled. Your DH doesn't have to be the one who brings all the joys you need in life.

Even kids understand that their parties can’t always happen on the exact day of their birthday.

What would happen if parents evening fell on the same day?
What if DH needs to work or is poorly?
Is OP going to throw her toys out of the pram anytime something falls on her day.

As an adult you need to understand that the world doesn’t revolve around your birthday.

The football starts at 9.
They can do something small on the day before this and then celebrate it properly on the weekend.

You will always get those miserable sad acts who nobody wants to celebrate with, coming on these threads as fast as possible to say YABU.

You are NBU. Birthdays are important and a time for people to celebrate you, and show what you mean
to them. He can watch the other matches. I’m definitely Team OP!

Yabu. Go out and celebrate your birthday with people who don’t care about football.

celebrate with your dh earlier in the day or another day

it’s not that hard

I had to go to DH’s friend’s wedding on my birthday once. Had my university finals on another (as well as the day after which was worse). A bit annoying but I got over it. I get a birthday every year!

What would you like to do on your birthday @rainsbows?

Given that you have a birthday every year and this match is 90 minutes out of only one of them, yes you are.

It is not starting until 9pm so there is enough time to go out for a meal or celebrate beforehand, if you do not want to do so on another day.

I am assuming it is his country of birth and both of your country of residence. Very different from the non-scousers who follow Liverpool or those from the south of England who follow Manchester United.

I’ve got to say, apparently opposite to most opinions on here, that I agree OP. Football is a game that happens all the time, and he could easily wait and watch it the next day and avoid his phone if he’s bothered about it being “spoilt”. Full grown men who revolve their lives around football give me the ick! I’d be upset by this and I agree that your feelings are valid!

Celebrate your birthday a different night. Sorted.

But why is ringfencing that one specific date so important? I'm all for having a special day or celebration but the point is it can happen at any time of your choosing. It's still the same party or dinner or whatever special thing you want to happen.

Sometimes I've been travelling and organised the party for when I got back, a month later. Sometimes you just arrange it on the closest weekend. Sometimes it's at the end of a packed week and I've told DP to take me out a week or two later because I'd rather celebrate when I'm not knackered (and vice versa). Sometimes there are clashes with things that can't be moved - not just football but work things, other commitments, whatever. I just don't get the fixation with having to do something on that particular date.

I'm also not a football fan at all but if DP's birthday fell on the Wimbledon final then we would be celebrating it late every year.

There's a reason I didn't marry a football fan. I was forced to grow up with it in the 90s, swore I'd never be in a relationship with a spectator sports obsessed loon.

If he can’t even be bothered to put his Wife over a game of Football- then you should go out with somebody else for the day.

When should I pick you up?😅

Is the Op's partner an England fan?

YABU, I haven't celebrated my birthday, Valentines Day or wedding anniversary for the last 20 years as they all fall in the run up to the financial year end. (Yes, I'm working all day and then weekends at that point and it's shite).

Pick another day around your bday and let him watch the football then everyone is happy.

It's in the very first line of her OP...

You're being really ridiculous. Go out for your birthday the night before or after instead. It's not like he can move the football

Ok thank you.

It’s a 90 minute game. Are you needing him to be glued to you for the whole 24 hours of your birthday or is it ‘okay’ he watches the game for 90 minutes.

You are being very unreasonable.

Take a breath OP - you are being utterly ridiculous.

I understand it means something to you (so I'm assuming it's a special birthday of some sort?), but it baffles me when grown ups get so weird over their birthday and stamp their feet if they aren't fawned over because it's their 'special day'.