Potential marriage with a very wealthy man… but I’m physically repulsed. WWYD?

[ForeverHopeful3]

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

Yes, go for it, divorce laws are great for women in the UK so if you get married and it doesn’t work out you could get the family house and 60% of his wealth, happy days!

He might be repulsed by you too. Also did you really need to use ChatGPT for that?

I wouldn’t date someone who classed themselves as single as a pringle
You claim to be worried about being shallow but I fear that ship has sailed.

At this stage in life I am contemplating life choices and have concluded that if I find myself single again I would only date billionnaires in their 90s.. so it's a yes from me.

This is a windup, right? How is it a potential marriage if you haven't even met? He might not like you or fancy you at all.

Wasting his time, let him find someone who does find him attractive.

Meet him. I recruit and learnt not to judge people by their LinkedIn photos, as people in real life often show very attractive charisma and energy.

Marrying for love is a fairly recent concept and there are so many threads how this has not worked out either.

Crikey if you’re physically repulsed by him then don’t meet him. That’ would be really unfair to him. You can’t help not being attracted to him but there really is no point in meeting him.
I think it’s possible to form a healthy relationship based on shared values without the crazy lustful early days but I doubt you could overcome the ick.

Yes. Meet up with him. Have sex with him after a period of time and you will likely get attached.

The mistake women often make is thinking they need to marry for love. Marriage is a social and financial contract. Many women choose unworthy sexual partners to have children with because they are so focussed on attraction and romance. They end up with a guy who won’t marry them and can’t provide for them financially. They are expected to do everything around the house, raise the children and still have to work.

Unless you have a trust fund and wealthy parents you need to make sure your future husband can financially take care of you and your children.

My only concern would be his family hiding assets in trusts and having you sign a prenuptial agreement. Which means if you break up you won’t get a pay out.

It’s awful to reduce a marriage to a financial contract - but it is so necessary.

This is why alcohol exists. Go on a coffee date and just be kind. Then accept a dinner date and get really dressed up and have a few drinks.

I wasted so much time on dating men who were not worthy. I distinctly remember having a relationship with a guy who worked in the airforce who had no money just because he told me I was beautiful. It didn’t last because he chose to move away because his ex was taking their children to another State. I chose him over a guy who was educated and (I suspect) wealthy and ready to settle down.

It’s a decision I regret. I wasted so much time on men who were unavailable because I thought I needed a rush of endorphins. I didn’t. It was a stupid decision I made because my own mother never stressed the importance of marrying well.

You’re 33. Date him. If it ends at least you would have been given access to a different social circle and you might end up dating someone else who is wealthy.

I thought exactly the same . OP is clearly a supermodel . Men that know they’re being married for their money would have some serious arm candy I would thought

You fail to mention what makes you such a prize that a youngish millionaire would want to marry you despite the fact that you sound like you would be barely able to conceal your disgust every time you look at him. He must be up to his neck in women who would like to enjoyhis wealth and find him tolerable?

What makes you think that he’d want to marry you? What are we missing?

The friend has proposed you go on a date. with Mr 2/10, not arranged a marriage. Hold your horses.

So many posts where the op never returns 🤷‍♀️

I've only read your subject line and it's a 100% NO from me.

You'd be mad to marry for money and not be attracted to someone.

Is this an arranged marriage within your culture because it's not usual to for someone to suggest you marry someone you've never even met!

Potential marriage!?....aren't you getting ahead of yourself here...you ve not even met him 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Exactly.
I assume it's an arranged marriage that happens with some cultures.

Christ, I hope this is not real. No, it’s not normal to date or indeed marry people who repulse you.

I’m sure the guy can do much better than a shallow gold digger.

And indeed a man she's never met!

What a surprise .

You sound desperate and shallow OP. Leave this poor guy alone. You can’t just go out with someone because of their wealth in hope you will eventually grow attracted to him. Stay single until you meet ‘the one’, or just stay single forever, don’t use people.

I’m guessing different culture where arranged marriage is the norm? Tbh, you’re probably too old for him. I assume with his kind of wealth he could have his pick of brides/partners, and will probably want someone in their prime, and not someone 30 plus. So whilst you think you have the upper hand here, you probably don’t, and would have to work hard to convince him to pick you above other better prospects.

Is his name Elon by any chance? 🤔 😆 🤣

Frankly I think you're disgusting for even thinking of going.

How shallow are you that you'd put aside basic attraction for money.