Potential marriage with a very wealthy man… but I’m physically repulsed. WWYD?

[ForeverHopeful3]

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

The title of this… is fucking ridiculous.
The subtext of this… is fucking ridiculous.
You my friend, are fucking ridiculous! Seriously unhinged.
You need to grow TF up and stay a “single pringle”. 🤮

Is this an arranged marriage meeting? My honest and jaded opinion is that marrying for love / attraction doesnt work. I bear the scars. If I was doing my time again I would marry for wealth and security - as long as the guy was a decent person. This is because:

• Marry for love is risky - love is apparently fragile and people change their mind quite easily. People also grow resentful and bitter. Have children together and you are bound to them forever to some degree despite divorce. That binding together during the childhood years can be a nightmare. Being bound to a bitter resentful person who you have to have contact with due to the children is neverending and draining.
• Marry for love can mean you dont have much money - In music and films you can live off fresh air and all you needs is love. Its not true. Not having much financial stability can cause issues and add further pressure.
• Attraction never lasts and is just a chemical reaction designed to bring people together ro procreate. So dont marry for attraction as once it goes what are you left with?
• Marry for money - at least it solves some (not all) of the issues above but it should not be the only reason. You still need to like each other at least some of the time. There needs to be respect and kindness
• Marry for the person - I think this is the ideal and hopefully they have a good personality, respectful and kind. Hopefully they have financial stability also. This is the longest lasting type and attraction can grow once you know someone on a deeper level

Best of luck

Poor bloke.

Leave him alone.

Let him meet some nice woman who likes and fancies him.

You can't marry someone you're not attracted to though! Obviously it shouldn't be the only slice of the decision pie, but you really must be attracted to them to marry them - deeply so, hopefully!

Yes sorry you are coming across as rather shallow, give the poor guy a chance and have a coffee with him, HE might not like YOU either.
Call me old fashioned but looks aren't everything, he might have a heart of gold and want to treat you like a princess and worship the ground you walk on!

Alternatively you might find a penniless drop dead hunk who's a total brainless idiot and treats you like a doormat!

I know which one I would prefer 😍

You're worrying about not wanting to be in a relationship with him, but what makes you so sure he'd want to marry you?

I'm amazed at the people who've engaged with Miss Pringle as though this is genuine.

Have you considered Prostitution as a career OP?

They confidently assert with days + 11 pages of content and context.

I believe it, personally. It's not her first thread and with everything in context, I think she's in a culture that arranges introductions with a view to getting married. She probably just didn't count on a) how alien that seems to people who haven't come across it in real life and b) how resentful and nasty a lot of people get at the idea of meeting a very wealthy man.

Personally I think if a man had an opportunity to meet a very boring but absolutely stunningly beautiful woman, for one date to see if maybe they'd hit it off after all, most men would do it. I think most women would give this a try too. It's one date, nobody is going to be used or broken hearted and as people have loved pointing out, he might decide he doesn't fancy her either.

I wouldn't touch an incredibly wealthy man with a barge pole.

You don't have to.

So you have not heard his voice, he is not 'handsome', so you have no interest in getting to know him. Your only positive is that has money. I think he has had a very lucky escape. Shallowness is not an attractive trait.

Ive heard it all now!!!

I've had the opportunity! I've dated an England footballer. I find it a scary prospect personally.

You dated a fabulously wealthy England footballer and yet find OP's story unbelievable.

At any rate, the point stands. If you don't want to date a very wealthy man, you don't have to. 🤷‍♀️

Very different. I didn't post about it in this fashion or say he was repulsive. I wasn't set up either, I met him in a club and went out with him a few times and decided the WAG life wasn't for me. He was pretty normal to be fair. Not playing for England any more.

Ah, I see.

What an astonishing thing to write down and post online? This chap needs to be tipped off about you! If you are as crass and foolish a person in real life as you have made yourself sound, he will spot you a mile off and run away.

If he’s not your type, he’s not your type. Leave him alone.

He might not photograph well and look much nicer in real life. Go for the coffee. You’ve both got nothing to lose. Remember, he might not find not find you attractive in the flesh so be prepared for that.

AS her, she is genuine

I don’t think this post is real . Anyone with half a brain would know the answer already and not have to ask the internet.

Are you stunnin’ hun?

Poor chap! You're saying some pretty horrible things about him on here and you haven't even met him yet.
Leave him alone and let him get on and find someone who he can have a proper relationship with.. not one that would be a fake relationship from you. Being just interested in his money is shallow at best, devastating at worst.
I really don't like people like you.

I wouldn’t be able to judge someone from a photo ?
I like someone who has a nice voice , kind face , kind and generous nature , is intelligent and funny .
Being comfortably off is good ( eg having a decent enough home , enough for the bills and money leftover for a few treats ) but wealthy not necessary as I don’t aspire to that sort of lifestyle.