Potential marriage with a very wealthy man… but I’m physically repulsed. WWYD?

[ForeverHopeful3]

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

Ah yes, that would make sense. Still marrting for the wrong reasons though. Thanks for clearing that up :-)

Yes, you obviously have strong standards. You knów you don't even remotely like him. Even if he has a great mind and a wonderful personality, you will néver love him completely, there will always be that nagging feeling he's not perfect (enough). So no, I don't think you should go on a date with him. He deserves someone who loves him the way he is, with his looks-voice-presentation and yes, his money.

If you are talking about physical attraction I disagree. Physical looks change over time. attraction based on looks doesnt last as it is just a hormonal reaction that fades in time. Health conditions change looks. A simple accident can change looks. Having a pregnancy changes looks. Physical attraction is a weak basis for a marriage. Attraction based on personality is different - but you wouldnt be able to get that until you know someone well over a period of time - IMO

I would meet him because his personality could make up in spades what he’s physically lacking. Don’t meet him for his money- I’ve been rich in two marriages (1 widowed and 1 divorce) and it didn’t make any of the issues better, I just had more options for shopping and holidays. My now husband is the funniest and smartest man I know- and he might not be every once’s cup of tea and he’s not the highest earner, but goddamnit I am happy