Potential marriage with a very wealthy man… but I’m physically repulsed. WWYD?

[ForeverHopeful3]

33F, about to be 34. Single as a pringle.

But, my family friend just proposed a guy (38) from an extremely wealthy family (millions, big business). She said the family is good and he's their only kid.

THE PROBLEM: I’ve seen a couple of pics + a company video of him and my honest initial reaction was “ew, no”. I’d rate him 2/10 by my usual standards. Maybe a 3. Overall, I feel zero physical spark... I've tried to find one picture of him where I think he looks even just a little handsome and I can't. Even his voice was a turn-off for me in the video. I couldn't make it to 30 seconds😭

Part of me thinks I should at least have one coffee in case attraction grows or I’m being too shallow. The other part feels it would be dishonest – like I’d only be forcing it for the money/lifestyle. I also don't want to waste his time or give the family any sort of false hope :(

Would you meet once anyway, or is zero initial attraction an automatic no, even when the man is literally a millionaire?

I have tried to go on dates with men I didn't find initially attractive in photos but attraction has never grown on me in the past. Usually after 2 dates, I call it quits :(

What on earth makes you think he would be interested in you? Why are you talking about marriage when you haven't even met? This is so weird.

This post is surely AI?

Blimey what makes you think it would be a given he’d like you?? Attraction has to be mutual you realise. He may have seen a pic of you and be interested but in meeting you decide you aren’t for him.

i think id just leave him (and his millions) alone to find someone who is genuinely going to love him

Don't marry someone you find repulsive. I don't understand why this is even a question.

Meet him - you can't judge attraction from a picture/video. You might like him in real life. Feeling attracted to someone isn't all about how they look.

Personality is more important than appearance in a marriage. You have to be as sure as you can that you will still be happy together when you're both old and wrinkly.

Don't marry him purely for his money, though.

I’m really surprised that at 33 you are writing about a man like this. First, the high value you place on him bring wealthy. Second, rating him out of 10 on looks is just teen boy behaviour. You’ve never met him so have absolutely no idea how he is real life.you don’t like his voice. You seem to think that you hold all the cards here and he needs to meet all your expectations, but what will you bring to the table? If you want to meet a good man who will treat you well, you need to adjust your thinking significantly. You need to be looking for more authentic qualities for a life partner.

Do you have anything in common? Things you like or things you do? Just because someone is a 10 out of 10 in looks doesn't mean they are nice, or interesting, or a good husband or father. What puts you off, short, fat, bald, squeaky voice? I would meet him what's to lose? You may be soul mates (unlikely I know). Are you hoping to get married some time or happily single?

Luckily we don’t live in the 18th century, luckily people now actually date for a while to see if they’re compatible before they consider marriage.

What on earth are you doing considering marriage with a person you’ve never met, is this some weird time slip into a thankfully bygone era where women relied on men for money and status and had their life planned out for them?

Absolutely batshit

Sorry if your initial reaction 'eeeewww' then do him a favour and don't meet. Its incredibly unfair on him to be seen as no more then some financial back up plan for you to 'settle' with and he will probably spot your insincerity a mile off.

You sound awful OP, save him the bother and leave well alone, poor bloke.

What a load of rubbish, this must be a wind up!

Forget he has money. You need to be with someone who will care for you 'for richer or poorer'. So does he. Take the money out of it. If the answer is you're not interested, leave the poor guy alone to find someone who will love him for who he is. It would be disgusting to marry someone for money (and what if he lost it all because the business crashed?)

That said, I would meet him to see how I felt in person (whether he had money or not). In your case though, I think you should do the guy a favour and pass. He deserves someone who will marry him for love, not money.

Pringles aren’t single, though. They go around mob-handed in tubes of about fifty.

I was wondering the same. If it is an arranged marriage why would you ask in MN where the cultural crossover and understanding of arranged marriage is not there.

Fake post.

And if he’s nasty and abusive and has a prenup anyway?

Pull the other one - potential marriage with someone you've only seen on a video clip!?

Honestly no.
He’s 38, he would have met a lot of plasric and unintelligent women in his life after his money.

AI generated rage bait alert 🚨🚨🚨

You might not find him attractive, but honestly you come across as the far uglier one in your post.

💯. The writing style is a dead giveaway.

This is you having a dream, no?

Meet him and in person. You are overthinking it. He may not find you attractive either.

What makes you think he’d be interested? Your friend doesn’t get to just “propose” a suitable man for you to date 😂

Poor man if he ends up with someone like you.