Confused about money AIBU

[Lyra74]

I've been seeing partner nearly 2 years. Nearly all that time I've known I earn almost double on paper compared to him. Although after tax pension etc it isn't anywhere near double. I have 2 kids at uni and they live with me when home for the holidays. So quite large outgoings at the moment. I have around 11k in savings so doing ok but not rich by any means since my divorce.
My partner is careful with money and worries about it. So as time has gone on I've found myself paying much more than half of things which I didn't mind. And more recently I helped him out with some small renovations to his house, as I'm planning on moving in with him in the spring.
This week I found out he has £225k in savings and investments. Money he inherited when his dad died that he makes around 9% on each year.
I am honestly blown away. I thought he was broke apart from his property. His house is in a nice part of Cheshire but the kitchen is falling to pieces. Feeling a bit silly and not sure if I've been taken for a ride.

There’s a line between being careful with money and mooching off others and it sounds like he’s on the wrong side of it.

I can sort of see his wanting to protect his ‘pot’ but not at the expense of having you pay the bulk of meals out etc. I’ve had friends in the past who were somewhat similar - always an excuse ready not to get their wallet out. He won’t get any better, it’s who he is.

I cannot get my head around women on MN who pay for boyfriends, financially subsidising them, even when they are single parents.
It is absolutely unfathomably the desperation for a man that would have a woman paying for a boyfriend.
Using money that should be helping their children, putting university grants at risk, all for a man.

So sad. Clearly these men can smell the desperation and target them as a result.
He has lied throughout their relationship, used her, got as much of her financial information out of her, via her post.

He sounds like a grifter.

Totally agree. Every day a new thread where a woman twists herself into a pretzel throwing money at a freeloading prick in their desperation to have a bloke in their bed.
Because for some women bankrolling a useless piss taking prick who treats them with contempt is better than being single.

So bloody depressing

Sorry for your family's loss.

But you’re still planning on staying with him aren’t you @Lyra74 ?

I would want full disclosure and the renovations money back - however I’m very wary too when someone has significant money in the bank wanting bills paid via a %. If you are living together- wonder if he would be suggesting this if he earnt double what you did OP? Food for thought-!