Boyfriend has split up with me because

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I am going on an all girls family holiday this weekend for a long weekend abroad. It’s been planned for months and we have been together for a year.

he has always had trust issues and he has always been insecure. He said this weekend is going to be the end of him and he has been very physically unwell this week in what he thinks is anxiety and stress induced.

He called me this afternoon and said, I’d rather be single with my head held high and walk away letting you carry on with what you are inevitably going to be doing this weekend, or I could stay with you never knowing the truth knowing you have lied to me.

i have never been unfaithful to him. He has made mountains out of molehills before over nothing and seems to use these as reasons not to trust but I just need a hand hold. Have been totally blind sided - I even booked us a weekend trip away in the coming weeks last night.

Honestly Op he doesn't trust you & there's nothing you can do to change (other than do exactly as he says and go nowhere without him or without his say so) so what's the point?

His insecurity cannot be your jailer.

He needs to sort himself out - he's not your problem to fix.

Have a lovely weekend.

So he feels disrespected because you have a life of your own, one that doesn't centre him. He's just another sad little man whose ego is far too fragile Op, go on holiday and let him stew in his own juices

Came on to say the trash took itself out. He's controlling. I would end a relationship over his reaction to you doing a completely normal thing - going away on a girls holiday. You can't be with someone who doesn't trust you. You're well rid.

Controlling let him go .

It might not seem great now but it's fantastic that a control freak got rid of himself.

You don't need that insulting nonsense in your life.

Definitely block him at least until you’re back from your weekend - he’s going to do his best to ruin it for you otherwise.

What a controlling POS. You are well rid.

He is definitely not expecting this to be the end of you as a couple, and was trying to get you to just cancel it.

Well fuck him. Nobody who plays those sort of games is worth your time and affection.

Have a brilliant time with your friends.

Enjoy your weekend long run he's done you a favour!
Block him before you leave have a blast and don't get suckered into his drama of his own creating!

To be honest I'm struggling to see why you're even thinking twice about it. Do you want to live with his "anxiety issues". Which in non-technical terms means he's a fucked up controlling mess that will only get ten times worse with age until you're a quivering shadow of your former self. You've had a very lucky escape.

Just ask him if he's aware he's exhibiting coercive control and leave it at that.
Enjoy your weekend away.

He's crazy. How very controlling. You've had a lucky escape from a life of misery.

I'm currently away on a 10 day girl's holiday and my husband has no problem with it.

Just as I wouldn't have a problem if he did the same.

So sorry you’re hurting, but you’ve definitely dodged a bullet! Try to enjoy your trip!

What a drama queen. Let him go, a man with an attitude like that doesn't value you. Nor is it healthy.

Yes please, ! Walk away, quick, before he changes his mind!
And NEVER come back (because he'll change his mind the moment he sees you've escaped his clutches/ his guilt tripping isn't working anymore)

Him being unable to trust you is not the same as you not being trustworthy. Don't fall into that trap. This is all him. It might not feel like it at the moment but this isn't worth fighting for.

Have a great weekend and let the fucker stew in his own mind xx

Good that you’ve realised now how controlling and manipulative he is. A life with him will be very small and miserable.

Have a great holiday op. Please don’t give him a second thought

He’s a manipulative little man child.

Don’t look back…

You are allowed to be sad but remember you are sad about who you thought you were with, not this man

I had a boyfriend like this once, honestly it doesn't get any better. Ditch him and don't look back, under no circumstances allow him to wheedle his way back in with promises of change.

Tell him to fuck all the way off with his bullshit and wish him luck finding someone who'll put up with it.. Dickhead.

Go and have a fabulous weekend with your family - you don’t need shit like him in your life Enjoy x

Good for you, OP. He sounds controlling which makes him bad news. He either wants you to cancel or to ruin your trip. Good riddance to him. This is not how decent partners behave.